Hi I have only just joined and I'm not a mum yet but I really just need to write this down I think maybe have a little vent hope that's ok.
I have just found out tonight that my fiancé has had a affair/fling with a woman at work. He told me last week that he wasn't happy with me and didn't think he loved me anymore. I got angry with him tonight and said I need to know the truth.
He said he had been seeing her a few months ago just for a few weeks and it was just about the sex and needing to feel wanted.
To give you a bit of background I have been seriously ill and at one point it was very bad to the point I needed to have lots of surgery. It went on for a long time and I'm the end I lost my job. I started suffering panic attacks and anxiety and found it difficult to leave the house. Along with the pain I was in I ended up being physically and financially very dependant on him.
Then out of the blue my dad was diagnosed with cancer and in the space of 5 months had died. This is the time when the affair happened.
He has told me that he didn't feel loved he didn't feel like I put any effort into sex (although we have always had it) and he just felt like he was depressed and needed someone to love him.
I fully understand that it can't have been easy living with me and I did get very down at times and didn't spend time and effort on our relationship.
He is now telling me that my only option is to go home to my parents. I do not work because of this twatting illness so I wouldn't be able to afford the house on my own.
I just feel so angry that I have to leave everything even though he has made this decision.
Thanks for reading this it's the middle of the night and I can't sleep X
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Cindyloo99 · 15/09/2016 04:14
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