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oh god online dating is brutal ...

(48 Posts)
Mygoodgod Wed 14-Sep-16 21:54:32

Honestly I've seen it all now...
Had been talking to a guy for a while thought we got on well
Tonight he messages me saying..I need to find out the woman you are.
Do you prefer champagne and oysters or cider and a kebab ..I replied I would prefer half a lager and a pizza.
Then he blocks and deletes me...
I was thinking confused

Cabrinha Wed 14-Sep-16 21:57:19

What a cock!
Thank god he self selected himself out - and you don't have to waste any more time on him!

Froginapan Wed 14-Sep-16 21:58:33

Lucky escape! What a shallow, pretentious arse

Mygoodgod Wed 14-Sep-16 21:58:42

I can you judge someone's character because of what they eat or drink.
The mind boggles

Destinysdaughter Wed 14-Sep-16 22:00:19

Yes it is brutal. Come and join us on the dating thread. Lots of support and shared experiences're not the only one OP!

LouisvilleLlama Wed 14-Sep-16 22:02:18


Sorry but really? Unless he's old fashioned, old money type who really has champagne and Oysters?

DeliaClartpepperTheThird Wed 14-Sep-16 22:10:12

Ooh you sound like trouble going off script with a response that wasn't a preapproved option.

Think you've dodged a bullet.

alafolie29 Wed 14-Sep-16 22:10:18

I agree that online dating is full of awful men but I don't know if this one qualifies? I'm definitely a champagne and oysters girl and I wouldn't be interested in a cider and kebab guy so I see it as any other colour or whatever.

kennypppppppp Wed 14-Sep-16 22:11:25

I used to hear about numerous mens' penchant for anal. And how boring I was because I wouldn't even try it. SIGHING!!!!!! (And not from having had anal, thankyouverymuch)

Which is why I'm, to misquote the magazine, taking a break. (From o.l.d.)

Mygoodgod Wed 14-Sep-16 22:13:48

I personally wouldn't rule a man out because he likes a cider and a kebab..
I think it's crazy to dismiss someone for that can't judge a person because of food or drink choices.
My gran is 90 but she loves a vodka and Coke ..she's no chav swigging vodka out of a bottle
(Not sure if I'm making sense ,in my head I know what I mean ha ha )

Destinysdaughter Wed 14-Sep-16 22:16:17

Oh dear porn has a lot to answer for. When I was young I swear anal just wasn't a 'thing'. Stay true to yourselves everyone, it's ok to not want to 'perform' like a porn star in bed....

LouisvilleLlama Wed 14-Sep-16 22:19:43

Upon considering I'm not 100% sure he was out of order or just men, if you look at the penetration man thread. You'll. See women are also petty about things, sure I don't think it was block able, it was in relationships but it would have saved time if they had been blocked from the beginning

Kittencatkins123 Wed 14-Sep-16 22:37:19

This is ridiculous. If he wants to find out what kind of woman you are (ugh) - then he should just meet you.
He is a twat.

Mygoodgod Wed 14-Sep-16 22:44:16

I think I'm a nice person and funny (I am biased tho).
Saying that I blocked someone who said they didn't work or have a car (maybe I'm shallow too)

ALaughAMinute Wed 14-Sep-16 22:46:18

He sounds like an idiot, you wouldn't want him anyway!

Where's the penetration man thread?

LouisvilleLlama Wed 14-Sep-16 22:48:21


ALaughAMinute Wed 14-Sep-16 22:55:02

Thanks. I'll go and have look.

WavingNotDrowning Wed 14-Sep-16 23:04:39

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Cabrinha Wed 14-Sep-16 23:07:05

I like elderflower cordial and smoked salmon with poached eggs and avocado.

He might have deemed me high maintenance grin

Pinkerbeller Wed 14-Sep-16 23:09:08

Oh dear, he's clearly a bit stuck on those stupid quizzes that claim to be able to tell you your personality based on how long your toes are or what colour your knickers are that day.

Bullet dodged. Think of it as the bin bag taking itself out grin

wayway13 Wed 14-Sep-16 23:22:21

He's done you a favour as he is clearly a pretentious twat.

My idea of a nice evening involves neither champagne nor oysters. I'd sooner have pizza and lager. Pizza and lager can be classy. Prezzo is classy, right? If I can use my clubcard boost for a restaurant then it's classy.

I met my DH online 9 years ago. We bonded over a love of vegetable finger and ketchup sandwiches. He thought my addition of a slice of Dairylea cheese was too much but he didn't block me for it.

Find someone who likes pizza and lager.

HandyWoman Thu 15-Sep-16 07:13:02

Bin bag taking itself out - love it!!

Dayna1 Thu 15-Sep-16 07:15:33

Yeah, what can you do. Imagine if he did something as unreasonable as this in public.

jeaux90 Thu 15-Sep-16 08:52:03

OLD is brutal, just laugh it all off OP. Bullet dodged and all that. If you want a good tip from a veteran OLD r then don't spend ages messaging. Move to a phone call asap, the voice thing is a massive thing along with whether the chat is easy, and you will work out very quick whether its someone you want to go on a date with or not. Chin up, good luck. (I have met a couple of really nice chaps through it by the way, two of them are really good friends of mine now). x

Inexperiencedchick Thu 15-Sep-16 10:23:03

EH "dig deeper" questions:

What have you learnt from previous relationships?

To value myself more, to trust my instincts and communicate openly.

I haven't heard from that guy anymore 😀

Had a date with someone from PO, he was keen in texting as a start, then started to text less and less... I went to meet him, didn't fancy him at all and within 15 min said "I'm not the right one for you". I don't do rock climbing and don't want someone to expect me to do that...
He texted the next day saying our interests and hobbies don't match.

TBH I'm looking for a man to settle down and build a family not a rock climbing mate. But I appreciate his honesty for not wasting my time.

I'm getting better in selecting who I talk to in OLD.


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