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Is Dh trying to tell me mil doesn't like me ?

(36 Posts)
Colourfulpast1975 Tue 13-Sep-16 12:15:03

Mil's rabbit sadly died. When I reported the news to Dh, he was very sad and he told me the rabbit was like the daughter she never had...I feel weird about him saying that.

Mishegoss Tue 13-Sep-16 12:16:05


PotteringAlong Tue 13-Sep-16 12:16:19

But you're not her daughter...

Colourfulpast1975 Tue 13-Sep-16 12:18:00

The rabbit was not her daughter either !!! Last time I checked, the rabbit didn't send her flowers for Mother's Day ! 😂

pictish Tue 13-Sep-16 12:18:28


allthecarbs Tue 13-Sep-16 12:18:58

I think he was just saying she lobed the rabbit a lot

pictish Tue 13-Sep-16 12:19:58

Alright...not a lot to go on here, but based on what you have presented so far, yabu.
Is she the mother you never had?

TendonQueen Tue 13-Sep-16 12:20:17

No, that was just a slightly off comparison and you're reading too much into it. He can't say 'like the son she never had' for obvious reasons. It's not a criticism of you. Though I would make your DH order his own flowers for her next Mother's Day.

Ellarose85 Tue 13-Sep-16 12:20:52

Is this for real?! 😂

maybethedayafter Tue 13-Sep-16 12:21:17

Presumably she's never had to care for you on a day to day basis like she did with the rabbit? I'm guessing he means that she made a fuss of the rabbit in the same way she would have done a little girl. Besides, it was your DH who made the comment, not your MIL so it's how he sees it, not how she does.

takesnoprisoners Tue 13-Sep-16 12:21:50

WTF?? Based on your logic, are you trying to say that you are a rabbit?

AnchorDownDeepBreath Tue 13-Sep-16 12:28:13

Er...I don't think this has anything to do with you whatsoever.

She loved the rabbit like a child, and it has died. Your husband is putting into context what that loss is, to her. Presumably she paid a lot of attention to the rabbit and doted on it in a way that she would have, if she'd had a little girl.

Colourfulpast1975 Tue 13-Sep-16 12:31:40

Yes I think you are all right ! I just thought it was a weird thing to say ! I love my pets but I wouldn't say like they are my children ! Guess we are all different in our grief !

loobyloo1234 Tue 13-Sep-16 12:32:29

Aye? Is this a real post? confused

maybethedayafter Tue 13-Sep-16 12:34:51

But again, it was your DH who said it, not your MIL. Maybe she didn't see it as a child. Maybe your husband is actually resentful about the attention she gave to a pet compared to what he got as a child. Or maybe not. Either way it's not about you.

MatildaTheCat Tue 13-Sep-16 12:36:01

Remember that older people whose DC have long flown the nest might indeed have extremely strong attachments to their pets. Obviously it's not a daughter substitute but he's simply saying how much she loved the rabbit.

Bit weird to make it all about you. Why not call her or send a card in sympathy?

CalmYaTits Tue 13-Sep-16 12:37:15


Must try harder.

90daychallenger Tue 13-Sep-16 12:38:39

Last time I checked, the rabbit didn't send her flowers for Mother's Day

I assume you did. Why? She's not your mum. Did your DH temporarily forget where the florists was?

daylilies Tue 13-Sep-16 12:48:29

...sometimes I call the cat my last baby......

Memoires Tue 13-Sep-16 13:07:46

It's a perfectly normal saying.

PovertyPain Tue 13-Sep-16 13:08:47

I think he was just saying she lobed the rabbit a lot

No wonder the rabbit died, allthecarbs. wink

Thinkingblonde Tue 13-Sep-16 13:20:28

Did the batteries die?grin

SandyY2K Tue 13-Sep-16 13:24:56

It's nothing to do with you. He's just saying she really loved the rabbit.

So much over thinking. Why?

PovertyPain Tue 13-Sep-16 13:31:05

Thinking that maid me roar! grin No wonder the poor woman's upset!

TheNaze73 Tue 13-Sep-16 13:49:44

We've all made the rabbit/daughter I never had mistake op. Let her grieve

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