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Worried no one else will match up

(8 Posts)
ponderingpenguin Fri 09-Sep-16 17:23:18

I split up with a guy I dated a couple months ago. Mainly no contact since (we slept together once around a month ago but haven't seen each other since). Circumstances dictated the split and also he was absolutely adamant that he didn't want a relationship based on them so I respected his wishes and left him alone.

However he set the bar pretty high and I'm starting to worry that I won't meet anyone else that matches up!

When it came to 'on paper' stuff he ticked just about every box going but we also got on really well, had incredible chemistry and we just had a great connection that I have rarely felt with anyone before.

So now I'm worried that I'm actually not going to meet another person that measures up. I have thought this before but then rationally could find a list of faults with the ex and not dwelled on it. But with this one I am struggling to see anything wrong with him!

Has anyone out there genuinely never met another? I am only 28 and don't want this to be it...

Shayelle Fri 09-Sep-16 17:27:24

He was a user!! You can set your bar higher than that, surely?

Mumoftwoyoungkids Fri 09-Sep-16 17:30:27

But with this one I am struggling to see anything wrong with him!

Apart from the fact that he didn't want a relationship! Seems quite a major fault for a relationship to me.....

adora1 Fri 09-Sep-16 17:32:43

Eh? You weren't good enough for him to want a relationship with you and you think you won't get better, jesus, really?

niceupthedance Fri 09-Sep-16 17:42:02

Sounds like he didn't feel the chemistry you did. Sorry. Someone way better will come along.

ponderingpenguin Fri 09-Sep-16 19:05:11

But if that is the case... how can you be happy with someone else when the last person was pretty much perfect?

TheNaze73 Fri 09-Sep-16 19:14:47

He wasn't perfect though. He didn't want a relationship with you

LoveRosie2008 Fri 09-Sep-16 19:17:51

If he wants you he can always come and get you now or in the future. If he doesn't then it was not meant to be.

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