So to cut a very long storey short I've been with my partner for, you guessed it, 15 years will be 16 in January. Since then we have carved out our careers successfully, travelled, got on the property ladder and currently refurbishing house number 2. We were once engaged back in 2012 but this was over within less than 6 months because he cheated on me and he claims he never wanted to anyway.. Outside pressure! It was a short affair but took me a long time to get through it and I took him back and we started again this time under new management. It was the hardest thing I've ever done but we got through it, since then many promises have been made none of which ever came to fruition we never picked up from where we left after it felt right again even though he said we would. so I've waited and waited for a few more years. Had an eptopic preg lost a tube, he was tricked into that also apparently, so basically nothing has happened and there always something else or it's not logical you name it it's been said. Starting to think of that film His Just Not That In To You! Yeah sounds like it! There has been a huge loss earlier this year which has hit both of us very hard and has reminded us of how precarious life can be and I lightly mentioned about getting married very low keyed next year in summer don't need all the glitz and glam just simple and intermit. Ended in argument and me in floods of tears then he called me pathetic told me it's not logical with the house and so on. so ladies you have the whole story any advice for those who have been standing where I'm standing wondering what to do? His the same when you talk about kids I feel im with the biggest future faker going and I'm the fool going along for the ride 
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15 years and waiting
user1473368252 · 08/09/2016 22:15
I'm sorry to say this but if, in all those years, the time hasn't been right, when will it ever be? And also, the infidelity......?
I think you need to get out.......
My take on what you've said is he's projecting. When he says you're pathetic, illogical, tricking him what he's really telling you is he's pathetic, illogical and tricking YOU.
You've invested a lot of your life in him but you're getting no returns right here right now. Cut your losses and free yourself to find someone who appreciates you.
You already sense he's stringing you along and, I'm sorry to speculate, but it sounds like his focus might have shifted elsewhere and you are the backup plan.
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