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Happy now DP is away

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Happiestfree Thu 08-Sep-16 21:20:46

My dp and I have a bit of a rocky relationship, we are up and down a lot but we have always been stable in the sense that we never think we might break up. We have 2 dc's together.
He is away for 2 weeks And I thought I'd really miss him. But we're on day 6 and i am loving the freedom. I can do what I want with dc and there's nobody to try and come to an agreement with. I am taking more responsibility for the house, cooking, washing clothes etc because it's just me. I'm quite enjoying being a single parent blush
I know this is not the reality of a single parent and I've only got it for 2 weeks so it's more like a holiday from coupledom. I just thought I'd miss him a bit!
What does it mean, do I not really love him?

Owllady Thu 08-Sep-16 21:24:07

My husband used to work away when our eldest were little and tbh I used to not dislike it like you
After 9 years it got a bit much though and he's worked more at home since then
It us what is the
We've been together 22 years now. I do sometimes wish he'd work away sometimes grin
I think it's just personality, it doesn't have to mean anything!

Owllady Thu 08-Sep-16 21:25:36

It is what is tbh
Sorry it auto corrected it. It is fed not like being a single parent at all. I agree smile

Greenandmighty Thu 08-Sep-16 22:27:20

I feel same op. I feel quite guilty admitting to friends in RL. I love the freedom when DH away. Personally, I feel that there's not real equality in my marriage so I feel I get myself back. I love having king size bed to myself and read late without having to worry about disturbing him. wink. I don't have to enquire about his day and don't feel so pressured about producing The Meal. To me, it suggests I don't feel wholly comfortable with Dh around and I guess that's true. But I think it's not uncommon to feel this way. We probably all relish a breather from our partners at times.

Happiestfree Thu 08-Sep-16 23:03:12

Omg, the pressure around The Meal! I feel exactly the same! When it's just me and dc I can do something really simple and everyone's satisfied. I think we're the same with not being truly equal. Never thought of that.

adora1 Fri 09-Sep-16 12:48:57

I'd worry about this, you should feel happier when together but then again, you can only feel happy if you are in a truly rewarding and equal relationship.

AttilaTheMeerkat Fri 09-Sep-16 12:54:51


re your comment:-
"My dp and I have a bit of a rocky relationship, we are up and down a lot but we have always been stable in the sense that we never think we might break up"

That does not sound like the basis for a solid relationship.

Why has your relationship been rocky previously?. Is your relationship really one of continuous great highs and crushing lows?.

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