Been with h for nearly 13 years, married nearly 10, we have dc's (not going to say how many as potentially very outing) eldest's in secondary school, youngest are still at home.
Things have not been right for years, any conversation about it has ended up in him stomping and shouting, nothing changing and plod on until the next time.
Over the past year I've gradually become detached from the marriage, just couldn't be bothered to listen to it again, sick of the nasty comments and shouting.
It's finally come to a stand off.
For once the conversation was initiated by him and for the first time ever he sat and listened, no shouting very few snide comments.
He then very calmly told me all about how he was feeling had been for years.
The conversation ended up with him saying we either live in misery or I leave.
I'm not leaving the kids but he won't either, it's all such a fucking mess, I'm a fucking mess.
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slightlyinsane · 08/09/2016 09:30
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