The relationship ended over five years ago. I finally managed to find the courage to leave after 3 years of verbal, emotional and physical abuse.
Then I found out I was pregnant and made the agonising decision to have an abortion. It was the most painful thing I've ever gone through and I still cry for my baby.
I'm now in a good relationship (three years) although I suffer from PTS and anxiety that ex is going to find me. The last words he said to me were that he was going to kill me and any partner I have.
When I left, his mother begged me not to go. She said that he was just confused and needed time to grow up. I told her that if he didn't leave me alone, I would call the police and press charges against him. She backed off and I left it at that. But I am now angry with myself that I didn't file a report, I absolutely should have no matter what.
I had no contact from him for five years but then last month, somehow he has found my number and has been trying to phone and message me. The first time, I was caught off guard but hung up immediately when I recognised his voice. And blocked the number.
Then nothing for a month or so. And it's started up again. A text saying hi. Just that. I didn't recognise the number so ignored it. Then a phonecall from the same number as the text. I picked the call up but didn't say anything, waited until the other person said hello. It was my ex. Saying hello, hello, hello, getting angrier and angrier. Again I blocked the number.
But I'm sitting here shaking now. I'm scared he has found me. What should I do? Should I call the police? Or is that too much for just a couple of phonecalls?
Please could you give me a handhold and some advice.
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abusive ex won't leave me alone. feeling vulnerable and scared
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scaredandneedtobestong · 06/09/2016 23:39
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