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Dry 15

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glad2016 Tue 06-Sep-16 22:42:06

For all those sober, or would be sober, warriors. KOKO (keep on keeping on) lovely people smile

glad2016 Tue 06-Sep-16 23:11:31

New thread! 😁

lizzytee Wed 07-Sep-16 05:20:58

Good morning!

gottaloveascamhun Wed 07-Sep-16 06:02:55

Hello. Hope everylne slept better than me! Ugh. Have a good day.

SlimCheesy2 Wed 07-Sep-16 06:17:35

Nice one glad. smile


Wow thread 15. smile

Anyone heard from Lucy? She is back from Oz and I am dying to hear all about it!

onewhitepillowleft Wed 07-Sep-16 06:29:57

wooh! up and at em on the new thread smile

I'm in a pissy mood today. Really overwhelmed about work, feeling guilty that I didn't work enough yesterday and I've agreed to do some extra things today to help out a friend who I spent a lot of time talking to and consoling yesterday, and I was really really really tempted to drink last night, despite the fact that I've spent the last week dishing out advice left right and centre on here as if someone died and make me the expert on sobriety. UGH.

But I didn't drink. I did an extra yoga session and went to bed. Now I'm awake and feeling as guilty and upset as if I did drink. What's that all about?

buddhasbelly Wed 07-Sep-16 06:34:23

just posting to say i'm here. been up all night

finnishbiscuiteater Wed 07-Sep-16 07:01:12

Woo! New thread! I started early on in thread 13, so this feels like a milestone to me ( I've been sober for the whole of dry 14!)

one your advice and support is brilliant and amazing, you keep the thread together. Please don't beat yourself up!

You resisted drinking when you had the urge. Focus on being proud of that. It's not a failing to really really crave a drink, is whether you act in it that is important.

Hugs Buddha, please take care of yourself.

gotta have you tried using sleep apps? They really help me...

chocoholic89 Wed 07-Sep-16 07:14:24

Ok I'm here too! Me and dp have now officially made the promise to not drink. It's that ors r relationship is through. Sounds crazy as the whole 8 years of us being together we've had drink in r life but it's been really horrible and rocky non stop arguments.
We both love eachother and want a life together it's certainly the drink that causes problems. Do u think we are just holding on , can it work?
I'm feeling positive. He says he wants to get married to me. I replied well the only promise I want is that there's no drink in our's so hard on what to think or do all his family are so negative about us. He's told them if they can't handle us being together then they don't see us.

Nobrain Wed 07-Sep-16 07:14:58

Room for a newbie? Having drunk around 3 bottles of vodka a week, I've been dry for a little over 3 weeks smile

YellowLambBanana Wed 07-Sep-16 07:24:48


Hugs and flowers to buddha choc and tattoos you sound like you've all been through the mill. Hope you're all keeping strong.

I'm still on with the yoga one managing about every other day - it's really good. Keeping busy with work, walking dogs and running - managed 13 miles on Saturday which is my longest run in years - I'm sure that's due to not drinking - no way I'd have had the stamina if I'd been drinking these last few weeks.

And a wave to strong your night out last night sounds good and another step forward in the sober journey grin

Welcome nobrain this is a wonderful group.

And hello to everyone else I haven't name checked - I have been reading all the posts and everyone is doing amazing ! Have a good day grin

glad2016 Wed 07-Sep-16 08:53:34

Morning all and welcome everyone to our shiny new thread smile

chocoholic89 Wed 07-Sep-16 09:01:47

Weird iv just been talking to dp and said are all drinkers and people who have a drink to "relax" are they all in the same boat as us. Why do people need things like beer or wine to relax people should be happy and content within there life's and not need alcohol to unwind..

buddhasbelly Wed 07-Sep-16 09:15:07

hi all. sorry my posts are very selfish at the moment. i haven't asked how anyone else or anything. the conversation with exdp before he left is starting to come back. i was drunk at the time so remembered v little for the first day or two.

i was pregnant back in march/april time. we lost the baby (i wasn't drinking, was doing well). he accused me of harming the baby and that i caused the m/c. probably the most horrible accusation i've ever had to face.

just feel done in.

lizzytee Wed 07-Sep-16 09:37:47

Onewhitepillow - don't beat yourself up about giving support but also needing support - that's the whole guiding spirit of this group - ie peer to peer. I've learned so much from others, hope I've given something but most of all know I can count on support and a handhold when needed.

Buddha, please take it slowly and sorry that you have had so much sadness and turmoil in a short space of time.

Finnish - me too, joined late in thread 13

Welcome nobrain and well done. How are you feeling?

tattoosandteadresses Wed 07-Sep-16 09:52:56

shock what an absolutely vile, disgusting thing to say to someone budda angry You are so, so much better off without him.

Welcome nobrain, great going on the three weeks.

Don't let yourself take on too much pillow if it's possible. I think sometimes we do it to keep ourselves busy then get overwhelmed and stressed and we know where that leads. Back to basics and some TLC? I always love reading your advice btw smile it's very well thought out and sensible.

Great going yellow, are you planning a half or anything? My name was down for the vlm ballot but wouldn't be able to do it now even with the slimest of chances I get picked.

choc it must be hard finding your footing as a couple going sober when alcohol has been part of your lives together. Sorry no advice as I've never been in that situation but rooting for yous.

Awful night last night. Trying to get dd into her own bed atm and it progressed to three hours of screaming. She hates me, I'm mean, I'm never nice to her blah blah. I ended up shouting too as I lost my patience plus it was the first day without cigarettes so a bit of nicotine deprivation sad I hate being shouty mum as my own was like that growing up and I always swore I'd never be sad Wish me luck tonight is easier.

Also found out ds is being bullied on the way home from school and I feel awful that he has been bottling it up a little while and didn't feel like he could talk to me about it. Twigged when I kept catching him on doing sit ups and press ups every night to 'get strong'. I feel I deserve a crap mother award today.

chocoholic89 Wed 07-Sep-16 09:59:09

Aww tattoos thank you! Children are hard work I still have to lie in bed with my ds till he's asleep. It use to take hours but now gradually takes about 15 mins after story plus moving his bedtime tI'll about 8-30 keep persistent. 😅

Nobrain Wed 07-Sep-16 11:09:51

Buddah flowers

Thanks for the welcome everyone. I'm not going to lie, it's fucking hard and I'm still craving badly. Having drunk almost every day since 2009 (bar being pregnant) It's a real struggle. My Mother was an alcoholic (quacks think my love of drinking could be genetic) and I don't want my daughter growing up like I did. Luckily I'm getting great support from a friend. Not so much from DH.

gottaloveascamhun Wed 07-Sep-16 11:26:20

Buddha how horrible sad you are most definitely better off without him.

nobrain it will get easier. Look after yourself and give yourself sober treats to reward every day.

tattoosandteadresses Wed 07-Sep-16 11:39:48

Thanks choc, it was one those ones once I started I couldn't back down grin. She has always been a nightmare sleeper, even from a baby. Thing is I'll put in all this effort but once she goes to dads, it'll be back to square one as he just gives into her in every way, she walks all over him hmm Still willing to give it a go, persistence beats resistance as they say wink

Only started the headspace two days ago but eyeing up subscribing, I see there is a childrens one for sleep. Willing to try anything and dd finds it hard to unwind, always on the go and needing attention. She's exhausting tbh but I see a lot of her more highly strung and fidgety personality traits are similar to my own. You have the subscription don't you pillow, any thoughts what the kids ones are like?

Great reason second to stopping for yourself than to put an end to history repeating itself nobrain. Wonderful you have support from a friend, are you doing anything else support/recovery wise?

buddhasbelly Wed 07-Sep-16 12:10:37

still here. boss has granted time off which i am so so grateful for. i had a lot of time off earlier this year due to seizures (around pregnancy time) which were un alcohol related so i feel really grateful that my boss has granted this time.

vxa2 Wed 07-Sep-16 12:17:26

I'm here. Will catch up with thread later today. smile

newleaf81 Wed 07-Sep-16 12:40:22

have been lurking for a long time and have been in denial. Recovering from a 5 day binge and just feeling absolutely terrible. really can't let this happen again.

newleaf81 Wed 07-Sep-16 12:53:05

DH said this morning he doesn't want an alcoholic for a wife sad as well as finally posting here have called drink line and they have given me details of local support group. need to do something different this time to break the cycle.

buddhasbelly Wed 07-Sep-16 12:56:29

huge hugs newleaf, the support you get here is non judgmental and knowledgeable. i've struggled a lot over the last few days and the posters here have been brilliant. take care x

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