Hi. This is my first post and I am absolutely desperate for some help. My OH and i have been married for 15 years. On and off ive know hes used porn but weve discussed it and hes always stopped.
The last 3 years weve had sex about 10 times max. I knew deep down something was up. Anyway back in March I checked his history to find LOTS of porn. However, everynight when I go to sleep he stays up to use it. He even used it on our wedding anniversary and left me in bed alone.
After he couldnt get an erection when I tried to turn him on I broached the subject. Only to be told he is no longer attracted to me, cant get an erection with me and wants to want me as he 'knows im gorgeous' but he just doesnt.
We split up and Hence I was heartbroken. He moved into the spare room and reputedly apologised after seeing the hurt. He has moved heaven and earth to sort things out for us to try and recover from the past 3 years. Weve been having counselling, which is OK and about 4 weeks ago he moved back into our bed. and everything seemed to be going well.
However he is now away for a week. I have looked at his history ( yeah I know I shouldnt but its killing me) and every morning and night hes using porn again!!! And lots of it. He clearly doesnt realise I can still see everything! Im heartbroken.
A girl at work says im being unreasonable, as hes away and he should be allowed but I cant help but feel betrayed, especially after what we have been through the past few month's and trying desperately to salvage our marriage he is now like a kid in a sweet shop and its killing me.
Ive said time and time again its the end. And last time I genuinely thought it was.
But he has been sooo lovely and I forgave him.
Please can somebody tell me.if I am overreacting? Has he crossed the line now? I feel like hes launched himself across it!
Please help
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He wont stop using porn.
onetiredmum · 06/09/2016 21:10
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