You know if you met 'the one'

[ArthurFoulkesayce]

When did you know? Was it straight away?

Do/did they know that you knew?
Did practicalities go out of the window like some of these magazine stories I hear (doctors waiting room, I sold my mansion to live in a mud hut for love type thing)

I'm single just asking because I can't imagine ever meeting someone and I'd love to know if it happens
Plus I thought it was a cheerful thread?

[dietborebingo]

I knew DH as a work colleague for 5 years before we dated. I had no idea he was "the one" before we dated!

[DoubleCarrick]

I met dh online. During the date he told me a story about how his grandpop saw a woman across a room at a party and that he told his friend he'd marry her. He did. I then went home and told my housemate that I'd just met the man I was going to marry. He's now dh and he recently told me that he told me the story because he felt like his grandpop did when we met(if that makes sense)

[DoubleCarrick]

It should say during our first date

[BendydickCuminsnatch]

Yes, when I first set eyes on DH it was honestly like there was a white glow around him I've heard others say the same. I felt totally at ease with him and we just slipped into a relationship with no dramas or big yahoo or anything :)

[BendydickCuminsnatch]

It was a feeling of 'oh, there you are!' :)

[ACubed]

I wound up with someone I'd been friends with for years - I had always been crazy about him but never said anything so as not to ruin the friendship. When the timings finally worked out and found out he felt the same I instantly knew it would work out and last forever (cheesy, sorry!). I had none of the usual anxiety and insecurities I usually have with men, it just seemed really easy and natural. But my best friend always gets to know people first and then falls in love with them!

[ArthurFoulkesayce]

Oh these are lovely :-)

[Mum4Fergus]

I'd been single with DS7 for about a year when I joined what was essentially a hook up site ... I'd no need / want / desire for a relationship. Got chatting to a local guy who I met about a month later.... I knew the minute we started chatting he was 'the one' which considering how/where we met was a bugger lol thankfully he felt the same way (albeit it took a month for us to admit how we felt). Nearly 2 years later he's my absolute best friend and we're in the process of moving in together

[LoveRosie2008]

Yes I did, he had a girlfriend .

[ArthurFoulkesayce]

Odfod, that is just lovely

[Mybeardeddragonjustdied2016]

I met my dh in a bar. Total stranger. Apparently I asked him to swop drinks with me (a pint for a half - bit drunk!) totally not me as am very shy but we kissed at the bar () shared a taxi as we lived in the same village (coincidence or what?) gave him my number and haven't spent a night apart since the next day! 4 years ago now married with a toddler (and already had 10 kids when I met him - divulged in the initial conversation!) Knew the next night stone cold sober that i would always be with him. Sounds cheesy but it just felt like a fact not a romantic notion!

[Spaghettidog]

Honestly, OP, I think the concept of 'the one' is ridiculous - there are potentially lots of 'ones' for everybody, and it's a bit mad (as well as fairly impractical) to think that there's only one person in the universe to complete you, and the chances of that person being unattached and doing OLD/attending a mutual friend's dinner party/joining the same running club in the Walthamstow area are very slim!

I met my now DH aged 19 and we're together very happily in our 40s, and he's certainly 'the one' for me, but I have definitely met at least one, possibly two, other men who would also have been 'the one' (and for whom I would have been 'the one' had we both been unattached and looking for a relationship at the time. We weren't, so have remained friends in the case of one of them.

A lot of my friends have fallen in love with men who'd been around in the background for a while, and whom they hadn't initially considered as romantic partners, but are very happy and I have one friend who had an arranged marriage and fell deeply in love with her husband afterwards.

Don't restrict yourself because of an overly romantic idea that there is Only One Man For You And You Will Know Him As Soon As You Set Eyes On Him, is all I'm saying.

[Bountybarsyuk]

No, I didn't know straight away. I knew my husband was very attractive and interesting when I first met him, and there was a definite sparkle between us and I fell in love relatively quickly, but I didn't sit there thinking 'he's the one' from day one. I firmly believe that people show their true colours over time, in their interactions with their families, friends, work related stress and so forth, and as I got to know him more over time, I was more impressed. I also had doubts, had doubts when I married (about some aspects of his personality) and still have them, though are happily married! He is My One but that emerged over time rather than being visible the day we met.

[TheNaze73]

I agree with Spaghetti

I think there can be different "the ones" throughout our lives too.

It's a nice sentiment however, with a potential pool of 3 billion to fish in, on the assumption you're not bi, to think only one person would be compatible seems odd

[pasic]

Mybeardeddragon Not spent a night apart since you met? With 10 kids?

Bloody hell, he was keen.

[maggiethemagpie]

Not on the first date but by the end of date 2 (a long/dirty weekend as DH lived in another city!) we knew.

We met someone in a pub who, on finding out we had just got together and were in a LDR thought they'd embarrass us by asking who'd move city to be with the other. Instead of an awkward silence, DH said he would. And instead of feeling uncomfortable, I felt delighted!

[Puddleduckthe2nd]

we met through OLD, first date we clicked, and saw each other pretty much daily after, he says he knew really quickly that it was something different than normal dating (he actually only went online for a shag as he didn't want a relationship) but within 4 weeks knew we'd get married. I never had the one moment, but after about 6 months, I did think to myself, this is the person I'll end up marrying. Everything was easy and fun and just right. We've been together 5 years, married and kids but there was never a thunderbolt moment. It was a slow burner.

[FunkyChunk]

DFiance and I were friends for a couple of years before getting together. I'd always liked him a lot but we were with other people.
About 3-4 weeks after we started dating, I was walking along the street and just thought to myself "I'm going to marry him one day". I was right!

[ImYourMama]

After our first date I got home and said I think I'm going to marry him. And I did. He's my soulmate, and we agree on everything or discuss until we come to an agreement. I can't genuinely imagine life without him, which makes me incredibly vulnerable because I'd be buggered if he was ever run over or similar

[ArthurFoulkesayce]

Some lovely stories here

[LoveRosie2008]

I think most think they have found 'the one' until they find him/her with their pants down and then we all know from the other threads what happens then? It's true though isn't it?

[GinAndOnIt]

Had a huge crush on DP the moment I saw him in the village pub, his shy smile just made me want to squeeze him. We were both early twenties though and not really sure what we were doing with our lives. I was working as a nanny far from home in his village, and he was off farming round the country and constantly busy, so we never got further than a quick snog in his car every couple of months.

Then I left the village for years. Tried to cut him out many times because I could not stop thinking about him and couldn't get over him. He kept popping back into contact, always. In the end, after about 4 years of this and me deciding I wanted to move back to his home town, I gave him an ultimatum. We either gave it a go, or he had to stop contacting me so I could move on.

He immediately said he'd liked me from the very first day in that pub, and was stupid to let me go the first time I moved, and it wouldn't be happening again. He told me he loved me and always knew I was The One, but was a scared young lad!

We moved in together very quickly and are still very madly in love to this day. And I still bloody love that shy smile.

So I reckon I probably did know he was The One right from the start, but didn't know I knew, IYSWIM?