Hi there!
I was wondering on how best to handle a situation in the most sensitive way possible.
My mum and dad divorced over 25 years ago, dads moved on and remarried approx 2.5 years ago. Mum whilst she had boyfriends never really found anyone else (she still held a candle for my dad and still beloved they'd get back together someday).
It's quite a sad situation as my mum lacks confidence and feels sad about being alone. I didn't talk to my dad for 3 years as it was my belief that he was "leading her on" I'd seen it for myself and disapproved of his behaviour. My dad and I never met till I was 9/10 and my mum had always been there for me and it was my belief that she deserved better to be taken for a fool. In hindsight (a wonderful thing!) maybe I shouldn't have got involved and let things take its course but I defended mum and me and dad lost contact.
Wind on to now! I have a 6mo DD of my own and I always said I would invite dad back to be a grandfather, true believer of everyone deserves to know where they come from. He is trying lots and we've had a few nice meetings/days out. Fine.
It's my DD christening soon and whilst I know both parties have a right to attend (I wouldn't say dad couldn't bring his wife, it's not like she's the other woman !) I know mum won't end up enjoying the day, she'll sit there attempting to hold back the tears. I don't really know what to say to her in preparation for the day as technically their relationship ended over 25 years ago or what to say to dad for that matter for the day to run as smoothly and sensitively as possible- whilst actually being what it's supposed to be about (my DD!)
Anyone have any suggestions? TIA
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r2d256 · 04/09/2016 13:11
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