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what would you job offer and lifestyle change

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whatisforteamum Sun 04-Sep-16 10:52:29

A yr ago i started a new job after a very long time in a good job that wasnt so good for me when management changed.So basically 2 yrs of hell.
I have had such a great yr working with positve happy people.However we are changing managers now sad.
things have been uneasy as everyone is unsettled until we find out what it will be like.I saw a job online less hrs same rate mon/fri.Ive been offered it though its easier than my current job i have worked there before and they would welcome me with open arms.
Dh wants me to do it though he likes his freedom when i work every weekend.
we hardly ever see each other.we both do opposite hours.I get home 11 ish he gets up 430 and we sleep separately,I work every weekend.
i decided i could cope with less money (less hrs but i can pick up overtime). and on the rare occasion dh and i have gone out this yr its been lovely,However he still gets bad mood swings.Anything said can be met by an outburst.
I quite fancy the idea of set hrs as i do shift work each week and he maybe less stressed if i were here more.Being almost 50 i fancy getting a life while i can as currently i only go to work then do chores on my days off alone.
I have tried to ask him if he would bother with me if i were here and he said he would.WWYD ? is it worth the risk,My dd said i would be bored.

ImperialBlether Sun 04-Sep-16 11:04:33

So you have two problems - your job and your marriage?

Mybeardeddragonjustdied2016 Sun 04-Sep-16 11:10:31

Have you got a spare room? Move dh and his moods into there. Take the job that gives you spare time and enjoy your life!

whatisforteamum Sun 04-Sep-16 11:30:12

yes he will be in the spare room when dd moves out this month he has been downstairs for months previously i was downstairs.He flips out over chores and yet wont let me find a window cleaner or my friend who is a cleaner doing almost 50 hrs this week and been ill (sore throat and dizzy almost passed out in the shops) Got home from work asked if he would kindly carry laptop to the bedroom as i was carrying a hot drink and he started raging at me.
I wonder if he is very tired or just bad tempered all in all.People describe me as bubbly.
Sometimes work is my escapism.Somewhere to be.

whatisforteamum Sun 04-Sep-16 11:46:12

yes Imperial blether.I am at the stage where i would like a life while im able.Both parents have terminal cancer so i know life is short.I have no close friends or anyone to turn to.I work so late socialising isnt an option.The mon/ fri would give me bags of BUT angry man would be here.(or would he be less angry with more help in the home.?

JennyOnAPlate Sun 04-Sep-16 13:29:11

Take the job and get rid of the husband. You will be 100% happier.

whatisforteamum Sun 04-Sep-16 21:12:18

i cant really afford to split up i dont think.Im trapped arent i ? low paid job although the mortgage is paid off now.

greenfolder Sun 04-Sep-16 21:17:55

So if you could house yourself for 50% of your current home you could be free

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