We have gone to counselling this year (just finished), which aired a few problems, mainly around my husband being very evasive about our marriage.
He's happy to trot along and we are affectionate and happy most of the time.
However, any time a big problem strikes, with the children (we have step children and our own) or with us, he just backs off and says that 'he does not think he can give me what I need'. A few months later he usually admits that I had a point, the problem is sorted, but I am left to feel insecure around that time. He also doesn't take me out very much, so I end up socially on my own with friends more than is probably healthy.
Anway, in counseling a lot of this got aired, he made me feel much more secure by saying how much he really did want our marriage to work, and wanted me. The counselor suggested that he go for individual counseling to sort out his issues with being distance and backing off from problems (he had an alcoholic father). We both agreed to spend more time with each other.
So he is just going to start individual counseling. We've sorted loads out. We have been on a much more positive track for the past few months. We spend loads more time socializing together. The kids are happy. And we have a fantastic romantic weekend away where we got on amazingly.
And then yesterday he said he 'wanted to talk', and said that we should end it as 'he was never going to be able to give me what I need'...
Devastated. And also pretty angry. I kind of feel like I have been led up the garden path but can't put my finger on why I feel like this. I'll be left with our 3 year old too.
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Husband ended our marriage after taking me away for a great romantic weekend
Endofsummer · 03/09/2016 16:57
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