I really need to vent.
OH and I are having trouble. I mentioned in a previous thread that he can't stop lying. I confronted him early last week about it and he has agreed to seek counselling. He had his first session this Tuesday and said it went well. He has 4 more scheduled in.
I also told him how unhappy I am living in a 'shithole'. Ok, it's not that bad, but that's because I do all the cleaning. He does about 3% of the cleaning and no DIY, so the house is falling down around us. I'm self-employed and look after LO (11 months). I do my work when he's napping and on Wednesdays and Thursdays when he's at nursery. I don't actually have much time to 'myself' to do cleaning, let alone relax like he gets to every evening and weekend. Not only does he not clean, but it's like he actively makes mess too. Dirty socks get taken off and left everywhere. Shoes by the sofa, ready for LO to lick (grim), bags dumped in front of the shoe cupboard in the hall so we can't actually use it, dirty bowls put on top of the dishwasher, bottle caps left where they fall...
His parents are coming to stay tonight so, understandably, I've been trying to clean the house. I've also been up since 6.30am with the baby. At 8.30am I woke OH up and asked if he'd like to take LO to the park so I could do some cleaning without LO under my feet. He said no, he was 'too tired'. Fine. I went out with LO myself and asked OH to clean the bathroom.
I get back and he's up there cleaning - great! Except when I went in there for a shower after putting LO down for a nap I noticed that nothing was wet, the sponge hadn't been used, the cif hadn't been touched. Basically he'd 'wiped' down the side of the bath, the sink and the toilet with dry loo roll, then squirted bleach down the loo. Hadn't emptied the bin, hadn't actually cleaned anything, hadn't even bothered to lift up the soap dispenser to clean the scum underneath! I ended up cleaning it all myself.
...Then I come downstairs to find him just playing on his phone! The kitchen is a mess, the front room needs hoovering (MUCH easier without a baby crawling around and trying to hug the hoover!), the dishwasher needs unloading/reloading. He hasn't even bothered to wash up LO's bottle ready for when he next needs it.
What a useless wanker!! Lazy bastard dickhead wanker. It's our 2nd wedding anniversary on Monday and I've got him fuck all because I don't feel like celebrating. It's 'cotton', so maybe I'll buy him some dishcloths and tell him to get to work. Wanker.
Any advice? Cleaning rota? LTB? Go on strike? I hate living like this. The other day I was fantasising about what it would be like if LO and I lived alone - it would be so clean and tidy! No random hair gel tubs left on the dining table for weeks; no shoes at the bottom of the stairs to trip me up while carrying LO; no fat sweaty man snoring next to me all night. UGH.
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Don't feel like our wedding anniversary is something to 'celebrate'
ralice · 03/09/2016 11:05
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