I was reading a thread a while ago about posts which people would like an update and I'm sure mine was mentioned. I was very flattered that I've been remembered on MN but the thread got pulled.
Brief background: PILs stopped talking to us because we called our son first name + DH's surname + my surname (fluffy monkey balls).
Lots of crap spouted by them: not a proper family; women don't pass names down; should have called him my dad's first name; don't care about them.
There was the saga of the silent Skype calls.
Update: We live overseas and visited the uk early in the summer. DH got in touch with PILs to say we'd be back and ask if they'd like to meet fluffy. After a long delay the said they would. We arranged to stay with BIL (the flying monkey) and we'd meet them there.
Trying to keep it nice and short:
They are so self centred they are more concerned about his surname than the fact he was in NICU and their own son is still processing what happened. They couldn't care less!
They interacted with fluffy but not in a grandparent way iyswim. There were no cuddles or feeds or helping with bath time (and I did offer).
They said they'll never get over his surname.
- he's nearly 1.
We're expecting a second monkey balls and there was no congratulations.
On the plus side DH has seen them for what they are. He told them that if they continue with their attitude towards me, he won't have anything to do with them. He said we won't be making the long trip to his home county next year, if they want to see the children they can come to us. He's stopped trying. It's heartbreaking for him and he's still struggling but he knows it's for the best for all of our sanities.
All because of a surname! It's so very sad.
Bloody women getting above themselves, wanting to keep their surnames AND have the same name as their offspring! This feminism malarkey is getting well out of hand.
