I split up with my ex after years of controlling and manipulative behaviour, which had increased to an intolerable level. He had put traces on my phone, wouldn't let me see family or friends, could t have people over and if I went out it was 20 questions when I got back. He finally left earlier this year, but since has been causing more problems with trying to turn friends and family against me, even some of my oldest friends, lying about me etc and now refuses to give me any maintenance or to see much of DS. We both work full time - he does shifts and he was supposed to have DS today during the day. He was in a mood, when I dropped DS off and before I could even say bye to DS, ex slammed the door in my face. I had only got out that he hadn't eaten yet as had only just woken up and didn't want to eat yet as DS went in the door. Then he messaged at the end of the morning to say I had to pick DS up early, (I was at work and in meetings) and I left as soon as I could but traffic was bad on the main road coming back so took longer and I said straight away traffic was bad as DS came out, DS gave me a hug then went straight to the car and I said to ex about has he had a look at dates to have him more in September and he said "well I'm having him Thursday night." (The only one he has agreed to for September so far) As if I should be grateful for that. I said I'd drop him off Thursday morning and he said no not until lunchtime. I said I'm supposed to be at work, he said well I've got the dentist and things to do, and I said but I have to work, and what other dates can you do. He said he couldn't. I said and what about maintenance? He gets paid I know tomorrow. He has only paid me £125 since he's left. He said that I had fucking caused all this and it was my fucking fault. I said that he needs to do more. And he said just fuck off. And slammed the door in my face again. So pleasant. DS also has difficulties ADHD, coordination and eating difficulties and it is hard work and I am exhausted trying to juggle everything and am now having to have checks with the doctor as I keep having stress related high blood pressure, blacking out and heart racing at times. DS has also said that ex has hit him twice recently and even that MIL slapped him round the face last time she was there. I don't know what to do to make it easier.
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AIBU to expect maintenance or more nights of caring for our DS?
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Jac1970stone · 30/08/2016 18:29
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