Before anyone says anything, I know it's not my place to say that. But after watching things develop over a number of years, the last week or so has really brought it home to me how damaging he is to her and her DD.
He has temper tantrums where he seems to struggle to control his temper, including clutching DGrandD's hand very tightly (she's nearly 3) to stop her doing something he tells her is naughty. He shouts at her. Yells at her to go to sleep when she is simply lying in her cot talking to herself. This kid is the sweetest, most loving child ever and he is destroying her self confidence. He hates that she won't obey him without question, or testing her boundaries. DD adores him, she is under his spell but treats her like a child. He told her he trusted her to take their own child out for the day. This is such a dangerous relationship and I've spent today in tears thinking about what might be happening behind closed doors. I've tried talking to DD and she just says he is tired and stressed (he stays at home while she works). He had an affair a few months back which he claims was 'just making out', the OW claimed they had full sex. I know which I believe. Then he had an appointment in the week when I was there, he went out an hour earlier than he needed to.
I can't just speak openly to DD about this, I nearly lost her before and I can't go through that again, plus he would have no hesitation in stopping me see DGD which would kill me. I just don't know what to do to make sure she is in this relationship with her eyes open, and seeing everything for what it is.
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SciFiScrewball · 29/08/2016 18:58
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