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Confused about breakup want him back :(

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Gracey1231 · 29/08/2016 00:22

First post lol!

6 weeks ago my boyfriend of 11 months and I had a huuuuge argument, where I said something nasty just to hurt him, I have done this before and said I'd stop but as usual it flew out. Anyway, we didn't speak for a week to cool down and he eventually text me like I don't want to end it I love you blah blah blah, on numerous occasions we arranged to see eachother again and he said to me he just wants his own space at the minute, he is scared his feelings have changed towards me, he doesn't feel the same as he did, he feels bad about us because after the arguments and this massive bad one has taken his toll on him.

He left me on Friday (26/08/16) officially and said he had to let me go because he isn't ready to see me yet and can't keep me waiting any longer as it's cruel. Me being a total girl was pleading etc and I said how can I get you back and he said it's too late, I asked him after that if it's forever that we aren't together and he said "I don't know" and that he doesn't want me to just disappear and still wants to talk. I spoke to his mum about us splitting up and she said to me that he said he needs to see if his bad feelings change and doesn't want me hanging on to a maybe, and that he hopes we can stay friends and talk still but is unsure whether he is ready to be with me right now but still has feelings for me.

I messaged him the night he left like "do you still love me" and he read it but didn't reply, I changed my whatsapp photo as it was us two and as soon as I did he messaged me saying "I'll keep our picture just I don't think being together isn't a good idea at the moment" but he doesn't want to be with another girl.

He asked for space and I pushed him like begging to see him etc instead of playing it cool and taking it slowly. Apparently he still has feelings for me. He still has me and him as his whatsapp photo and has been online since just not messaged me.

I love him to pieces and I'm changing my ways, I took him for granted and I really want him back haha :(

Gonna try not to contact him and let him message me first because me "spamming" him with texts caused us to bicker abit in the relationship anyway.

What are my chances of getting him back? And will no contact work maybe make him think of the good instead of the bad, (he still has feelings for me) whilst I sort myself out and become less needy and strong.

I'm gonna not text him until he texts me but I'll send him a birthday card next week, just a simple one.

Help me :( Is it too late?

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QueenLizIII · 29/08/2016 03:09

6 weeks ago my boyfriend of 11 months and I had a huuuuge argument, where I said something nasty just to hurt him, I have done this before and said I'd stop but as usual it flew out.

he said to me he just wants his own space at the minute, he is scared his feelings have changed towards me, he doesn't feel the same as he did, he feels bad about us because after the arguments and this massive bad one has taken his toll on him.

Me being a total girl was pleading etc and I said how can I get you back and he said it's too late

Have you even listened to what he has told you?

You regularly say nasty things just to hurt him and he has this and the arguments are taking their toll on him.

You don't seem remorseful at all and even admit to text spamming him and being needy.

Your nasty behaviour has finally begun to change your bfs feelings towards you. And instead of doing anything you can to atone for it and apologise and make a real effort to change your behaviour, you are talking of using no contact to try and lure him back. I.E. passive aggressive, reverse psyhology games.

Go complete no contact and end this toxic relationship. Not NC with a view to getting him back though. USe NC as a means to let him go and find someone who is nice to him and you make a real effort to change your ways as no one is going to put up with that kind of shit in a relationship.

Why do you want him back? Just to abuse him again and "as usual" let nasty things slip out?

You need to be single for a while, to grow up and sort your issues out.