I've searched to see if I can find any similar threads, but it seems my situation may be unique and I really need some help deciding what to do.
My husband and I have been together for 6 years. From the start our sex life was very one sided, it was always me initiating-he never turned me down but it always came from me. It was always a bit stilted and lacking passion, but apart from the one sidedness, it was fine.
Slowly, as it does, over the months it started to dwindle and if I didn't initiate we just didn't have sex. I tried talking to him and he said there wasn't a problem.
One day after we'd been together a couple of years I looked at his phone internet history and he'd been looking at porn, mainly anal which is something we haven't done, nor has he shown an interest in. I wasn't angry about the porn per se, but he fact that we weren't having sex and he was choosing to masterbate to porn.
Over the months I tried talking to him a few more times, all he has ever said is that he is scared to initiate in case I turn him down.
I looked at his phone a few months later and he'd been watching transsexual porn and been on adultfriend Finder. A whole can of worms was then opened as I carried on digging and found memberships to transvestite hook up sites and adult work. I won't go into the whole heap of shit that followed those discoveries but we had counselling and said he isn't attracted to transvestites, he was watching the porn etc as its taboo and he'd never want to meet or be with one.
Yes I am still with him, yes I am stupid. As it stands, we haven't had sex for 2 years. The last time I talked to him about it was over a year ago and nothing has changed.
Please help me decide what to do, can straight men be interested in transvestites or am I just very very stupid. I can't be in a sexless marriage.
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