At my old job I became close friends with an older gay man. We got on really well he would tell me about his trips and show me his art. I was one of the few people who knew about his HIV status and even went to his wedding. When I went off on maternity leave and then to my new job we would keep in touch via Facebook and have met up once or twice. I recently heard he retired and contact went quiet until today.
My husband has just seen in the local newspaper that he has been charged with the repeated rape of an underage boy in the late 90s/ early 00's. I feel horrified but not sure who I can talk to since it doesn't actually effect me. I feel like our whole friendship was a lie and how could I not see what a monster he was? He was the person I confided in when we were TTC and one of the first work colleagues to hold my DS, the thought of what he did to someone else son turns my stomach.
Not sure what advice I am looking for really, just wanted to get this off my chest.
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MrTumbleOnRepeat · 22/08/2016 18:37
That must have been a horrible shock for you.
I get how you feel, like all those special memories are a lie, and it makes you question everything you ever spoke about with him.
It's like a readjustment of the past.
I wish I knew what to say to make you feel better op, but I do understand 
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