I'm an anxious over thinker and have found myself engaged to long term partner and feeling overwhelmed at this commitment (I see a counsellor regularly to help with my anxieties)
Part of my homework has been to list my needs in my relationship to see if Partner meets these needs and identify what may be unrealistic expectations.
I've listed that I would like if he were more affectionate and specifically, greeted me hello/goodbye with a hug and kiss and greeted other women - mums and female friends/family with a hug and peck on cheek.
Just wondering if this is the norm for most men or one of my unreasonable expectations? Of course these are small examples to what is a bigger need for me - I.e to have a partner who is comfortable showing affection as this is important for me before having children as my own dad was emotionally unavailable (and just generally unavailable) and that has had a lasting negative effect on me and causes my commitment anxiety and general anxiety about what a good relationship with a man should look like
Any advice from happily married MNetters on what made you sure you were marrying the right kind of person for you to have a happy and contented life? Or perhaps advice from those who wish they had not married their partners?
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Is he the right one for me?
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OrangeTerrine · 22/08/2016 17:50
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