I have a friend who is usually get on well with but have noticed a few times that if I try to challenge her on something that she's done that I'm not happy with, she will twist it round to make it my fault. for example she lost some makeup of mine at a festival I got a bit bothered and she then said I was upsetting her for making a fuss and her husband spoke aggressively to me telling me to be gone by the next day. no apology and then I get teased for being naughty. he completely denied telling me to leave site saying he wouldn't have said this. they then said saracsticaly whenever Maggie says anything just say yes Maggie. we don't to hear this or engage. they then said I always thought I was right and was bossy. said jokingly but in a teasing kind of way. then 'you're being naughty Maggie for daring to bring it up. so I feel ignored, dismissed, my feelings don't count.
they seem.to be unable to see the part they played and it's all my fault. if I stand my ground I'm told I'm bossy.
this has happened a few times. I'm not prepared to be emotionally manipulated this way. I tried to discuss and just got a sarcastic "yes maggie".
I am beginning to think this is a deal breaker. shout and chase me in public telling me to leave the festival, then say he would not have said this so I'm lying. so basically it's all my fault and don't date suggest otherwise?
sits really uncomfortable with me, as its basically ignoting my feelings, should I end this friendship or back off? I'd be willing to discuss it but they aren't, and it's niggling me
I said why am I bossy and they said I think my way is always right. well I do think he was out of order but I get a go away we don't want to hear message if I broach it.
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maggiethemagpie · 22/08/2016 04:53
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