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Am I losing it or do my friends not like me anymore?

(6 Posts)
queenoftheladybirds Sun 21-Aug-16 18:35:02

Hi Mumsnet,
I've done a swift name change because I'm finding this all quite upsetting.
I am a single mum to a young'un. Her dad is not around much & I'm pretty sleep deprived & have a stressy job too.
I've always had a solid group of friends-male/female/parents & non-parents. I've always felt confident within myself, weekends are busy, texts-a-chirping etc but recent weeks I've found that I'm instigating all the social stuff, I'm texting everyone every time & I get the feeling my friends just aren't being all that friendly. I'm feeling pretty down on myself & just in the last week starting to feel like others are looking at me differently/people thinking I'm a bit of a nob/I'm losing my confidence. I'm bloody busy with work & life & am convinced others are seeing that I'm often preoccupied & stressed & that I'm a bad person because of it. I try to be kind, considerate & catch up with friends as much as I can but today spent the entire day on the verge of tears feeling like nobody wanted me there when a few of us went for a picnic. I feel on edge & anxious almost all the time.
Most of my friends are in couples & I no longer am. Maybe that's part of it. Ultimately I feel like I'm falling apart & without my self confidence (which is evaporating rapidly) I'm screwed...
Anyone been through a similar thing?

LellyMcKelly Sun 21-Aug-16 20:29:42

I'm sure it's nothing to worry about. It's the summer. We're all juggling work, kids holidays, going away, families visiting, day trips etc. It's hard to catch up with anyone at the moment.

LSAR Sun 21-Aug-16 20:36:42

I wouldn't think too much into it. Your probably just exhausted leading to stress and anxiety. It should be cool keep your head high and remain confident smile

LSAR Sun 21-Aug-16 20:40:27

And yes i go through it all the time i suffer from OCD and anxiety. I notice when i am feeling ok people are more around me and when I am low I FEEL like no one is but it's probably my anxiousness or the vibe I give that may drive some people away.

queenoftheladybirds Sun 21-Aug-16 21:29:26

Thank you Lelly & LSAR
It's getting quite exhausting....I'm not really able to relax around anyone at the moment. Even my good friends.
Yes, everyone is busy (& maybe bring recently single there's a 'gap' in my life that others have filled... I don't know) but it's making me feel like I'm someone else.

pallasathena Mon 22-Aug-16 08:48:25

You need a holiday or at the least, an away day to recharge the batteries.

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