So I don't live with dp and he is 7 years younger. We have been together on and off for 10 years. Off was always because I was a commitment phobe. Now on for 3 years, settled, happy, not perfect but looking to move in together. I have a ds from previous relationship.
I'm pretty chilled about things accept men think about, look at and fantacise about other women. I've always had the rule that they should never look for more than a glance when with me, it's humiliating. In week went to uncles b b q. My cousins are in 20s and one had 18 year old gf there. She was beautiful and v v sweet. My dp spent all night glancing at her over and over again. He didn't get drunk but the more he drank the more he looked. I felt shit. She noticed. She looked awkward and mortified, kept being really nice to me. She ramped up talk about how much she loved her boyfriend (who was at work ) and still he looked over and over. I kept my cool , was chatty jolly and normal. We were about to leave when she said could we wait as her bf wanted to see us. He arrived with a face like thunder. I said awkward hellos/chats, he looked v pissed off. Then after 2 mins said he was taking gf to a village pub quite far away. Was odd pub next to their house. I think he didn't want any of us going with them. He barely said goodbye was very cold. Not normally like this. I think she told him what my dp was doing and told my other cousins. I'm mortified. When I've addressed this before with dp he gets v cross , swears he doesn't even see these girls/women and I imagine it.he says he never stares at women and if he glances so what, he forgets a few seconds later. I believed him. I feel humiliated. Why would he do this? Does he not know that he does it? Does he know and not care? I wonder if he has never got over my commitment problems or simply doesn't like me laying down my rules... I don't know but wonder if I can really spend the rest of my life with someone who does this. Aibu???? Am I over reacting? Is this normal? I feel confused. I've said nothing and been v nice. He looked like an idiot - I'm old enough to be her mum...
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Dp spent all night looking at 18 year old.
Winnnie1976 · 20/08/2016 23:22
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