So this might be long, sorry if so!
I am currently on Mat leave, receiving SMP, WTC and CTC.
My DP is self employed and works sporadically, probably earning only £100pw.
DD is 8 months old so I will be returning to work soon, but currently the workload seems to be split as follows- 2 out of 3 days DP will get up with her in the morning (meaning I can have a lie in) he will play with her for an hour or two and do feed/breakfast. After I am up and have had a morning coffee he 'hands over' care to me and carries on his day.
The other day (out of three, hopefully I haven't lost you) I will get up with DD and have responsibility for her all day.
DP will quite often cook a mean if I haven't had time, but this is often at 7 or 8 pm as he has arrived home late. This pisses me off as I would like us to all eat together rather than me feeding DD and putting her to bed before he is home.
This also pisses me off because he is as likely to be out visiting friends as working.
I feel that the main care of DD has fallen to me automatically and DP would rather be doing anything else than spending time with us (me?)
Am I being over sensitive here? I appreciate that DP is allowed a social life and the fact I have to consider DD In everything I choose to do and everywhere I choose to go is part and parcel of being a parent- but DP doesn't seem affected by this in the same way I am.
And on to the next issue!
From my income (family money fair enough) I pay for 99% of things, rent/council tax/bills/food/toiletries/everything for DD.
As previously mentioned DP has a lower income, and this seems to go on parts for tools, petrol ect.
Am I being unfair to expect a small contribution to family finances OR for him to pull his weight a bit more at home as he is not contributing financially.
I'm after a little perspective as I seem to be permanently cross with him at the moment.
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Pissed off with DP- but am I being fair?
TheViewFromTheSheepSeats · 20/08/2016 15:29
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