its my first post on here, I have been lurking for a while and I think you MN lot are amazing in terms of honest advice and a general life wisdom
I am in my mid/late 30's, no kids, I left my husband couple years ago due to all sorts of abuse, from verbal to physical violence, I have literally left everything and ran away, moved 200 miles away and started fresh from scratch. This has set me back career and money wise, but at least there was no abuse. Police put me in touch with womens aid, but in the end I refused to accept any sort of help from them. now I regret it.
I now found myself depressed, at times I feel guilty that I left him, I can form any form of relationship since - I wasn't ready for a while so was happy with just fun - now I feel ready but find it difficult to open up. New city means that I have no roots, no friends, I feel very isolated and extremely lonely which adds to the grief. I had quite a good career in the old place, after moving I took up a job with a pay cut and without prospects ( I just wanted out and away from him) thinking it will keep me going for couple months and then I will look for something up to my previous experience and qualifications, end up stuck here, recently started to look for a job in line with experience and education and I am being asked why there is a step down in my cv - obviously it doesn't say on my cv why I did that.
I feel utterly useless, alone, contemplating what is the purpose of my existence at all. I spend whole weekends sleeping, I feel so lonely it almost hurts. I would never go back to my ex, but I find it so hard to move on. I got nobody I can talk to in RL. I don't think anybody would believe what I feel anyway, I'm being seen as attractive and successful, I don't lack male attention but I don't believe anyone can like me just for me, so its ends up with me pushing them away as soon as we get intimate. I feel so unhappy, so useless, so lonely. I have no confidence at all, I hate myself.
I hope I am even making any sense here now?
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ayeshaa · 20/08/2016 14:27
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