DH and I split just over 2 months ago. We had been together for 10 years, married for 6 and three young DC. It was completely out of the blue and I was devastated. He was with someone else and living with her less than 2 weeks later.... introduced DC to her etc (against my wishes).
We continued to text and he has spent weeks telling me how he loves me, he wishes it was me that was there, he made a massive mistake blah blah blah. Last week he told me he had ended it with her and she had moved out. (He has told me at least once or twice a week for 4 weeks before this of massive arguments they constantly have) so this week I agreed we could give it another go now that she was out of the picture. Maybe get our marriage back on track.
I stayed at his after work on wednesday (felt extremely awkward because that's the place they shared together). He has been telling his family and friends we were back together and that we were looking to get a new home together.
Then suddenly she is back at his (which I only found out about through a third party) so obviously I'm left feeling pretty hurt... and now all he can say is 'I don't know what I want' and that I need to give him time to figure it out.
I feel like I've been played a treat. And I keep going back. He won't answer me when I ask why he'd do that to me. I spent the week asking him if he was sure this is what he wants. Gave him every opportunity to back out and all he ever said was I love you, I want our family back together, I want our marriage to work out. I feel like crying. And then sending her all the messages he has sent me. But where would that get me?
I'm pretty sure It won't make me feel any better.
Don't know where I go from here
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DH doesn't know what he wants
ThePinkCat · 20/08/2016 00:32
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