So, there are plenty of my original threads from a year ago - OH left me after 25 years for woman at work, 1 x DC involved and she has DC's as well. I had some amazing support from this forum.
So, literally a year down the line and I hoped I'd have moved on. And I have albeit slowly. However, just when I thought I was turning a corner, he announces that he's going to ask the OW to marry him. I'm floored. 25 years with me and he never wanted to get married. 1 year with her.
It just keeps going over in my head " is getting married". I hear myself saying it outloud. I picture him at the alter, looking at her like he never wanted to look at me. Their first dance. It all hurts so much.
Don't know why I'm posting really, but I'm just hurt beyond belief all over again and could do with some rationale and kind, uplifting words.
Thanks for reading.
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Dollygirl2008 · 17/08/2016 14:22
It's hard when someone you love does something with someone else and not you, especially when you would have done it with them no matter what it is.
I wish I had words of wisdom but can't think of any. There could be ten reasons why he dint marry you, why he wants to marry her, none of which mean there is anything wrong with you.
I've been in a similar situation and understand how bad it hurts.
I can't say anything that will make it better, it just takes time.
Sorry to hear that Dolly. It must be so so hard to bear.
I don't have any very good advice, sorry. But just try to keep your head held high and try not to focus on him and what he's up to. And if you find your mind drifting to those horrible mental images, then check yourself and force them from your mind.
Think about you and what you'd like next for yourself. Maybe sink yourself into a new project or activity to take your mind off things and to feel good about you.
People say that time heals, but I can see this must be a very difficult pill to swallow after you were with him all those years. Try to hang in there. Take care ...
It's only a year. That's not long with a break up like this, which is like a bereavement.
You've done so well in a year 
He, meanwhile, is the slime you didn't deserve. Wouldn't marry you after 25 years? yuk yuk yuk. She's got a prize there, eh. Not.
My exH announced he was marrying an ex friend of mine who had been a bridesmaid at our wedding. Despite knowing that the vile cheating arseholes are perfect for each other I can't help but be horrified. I can only imagine how hurt you must be feeling. I wish I had a genuinely useful piece of advice for you.
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