So ex and I split and he started messaging women 24 hours later. He begged me to come home and I asked if he had had contact with other women and he told me about the messaging but that it had only been messages and only to stop him feeling miserable, abandoned and lonely. Fast forward and he decided he no longer wanted to be with me a couple of weeks later after I discussed issues with his family. Said I had humiliated him etc... immediately entered new relationship with one of these women, conceived a baby with her around 12 to 14 weeks into new relationship, introduced her child and our child to new relationship immediately and I mean literally from first day, got engaged 7 months into this relationship while she was about 4 or so months pregnant and married after just over a year together with baby a few months old. When we split and he was messaging other women she was one of them. He knew her from school and knew she had always had a thing for him. When we had discussed it when he had wanted to come home he had said "fuck her she's nothing, I don't want her I want you" about her and the other two or three he had been speaking with.
He has been horribly hostile and abusive to me at the same time. But my question is, is his speed with new relationship normal immediately after separation and having wanted to come back to relationship? Literally a 24 hour change of mind and then another 24 hours new relationship started. I'm trying to assess it without the bias of being on the receiving end of his abuse, if that makes sense. They didn't speak properly for almost ten years before this so had no real relationship besides knowing each other from school.
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BaffledandConfused · 15/08/2016 03:26
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