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Need to leave!

(15 Posts)
StrongLady87 Sun 14-Aug-16 10:32:33

Hi everyone, I'm new to the forum and a bit uneasy as I have never spoke about this before.
I have been with my husband 13 yrs married for 2yrs. We have 5 children aged between 11 and 7mth.
My husband has been mentally and physically abusive from the beginning I just kept believing him when he said he was sorry and it wouldn't happen again but always did.
I'm not close to any of my family and don't really have any friends to turn to except from his family who know what has happened but turn a blind eye.
I recently started reading inline about how i can leave and see somee one say to keep a record and pictures of what has happened. I have sent these to myself in a secret email I have. I have started to put some money away but it's not much.
I thought of phoning the police but I'm scared Incase he would get out and come back.
Any advice would be gratefully appreciated as I can't live like this anymore

QuiteLikely5 Sun 14-Aug-16 10:35:25

Contact woman's aid.

The good news is, is that you are able to get LA accomodation given that you are suffering from DV.

Google for refuges or DV advice in your area and they will help you from start to finish. They will help you with benefits, practicalities, keeping you safe etc.

StrongLady87 Sun 14-Aug-16 13:05:25

Thanks. It's hard to be able to phone out as my husband is at home almost all of the time. Is there any other ways to contact them rather than phonecall

Outnumbrd Sun 14-Aug-16 13:17:10

helpline@womensaid.org.uk
But they can take a few days to respond. Stay safe OP. Do not let him know you are thinking about leaving him. Get a plan in place and do it. flowers

StrongLady87 Sun 14-Aug-16 13:39:05

Thank u outnumbrd. I'm being extremely careful and acting as I normally would around him.

StrongLady87 Mon 15-Aug-16 00:25:00

I have sent an email to the address u gave above. So hopefully it's not too long until I get a reply. Thank u to those who have replied

newworldnow Mon 15-Aug-16 01:07:36

Good luck keep posting flowers

Outnumbrd Mon 15-Aug-16 06:19:15

Strong I hope they reply soon, and help you to make a plan. Don't ever give up, it will be hard but so much better in the end. You and your DC's deserve to have a happy life. Keep posting if you need to, how has he been this last day or so?

StrongLady87 Mon 15-Aug-16 09:17:13

Yesterday was a good day with no arguments. Still early 2day but so far nothing. I'm really at breaking point now and just want away for the sake of myself and kids so hope it's not long until I get a reply. Will keep everyone updated thanks again

tipsytrifle Mon 15-Aug-16 15:02:46

Wishing you an extra dollop of the strength that you chose for your name. Believe it because you ARE exactly so chocolate

hellsbellsmelons Mon 15-Aug-16 15:21:29

Can you get out of the house with the kids?
Go to your local police station and speak to them.
They might be able to help you if they have a DV unit.
Womens Aid should get back to you soon though.

StrongLady87 Tue 16-Aug-16 08:51:56

Thanks tipsytrifle.
No hellsbellsmelons he's at home most of the time and there's no way I could get out the house with all the kids.
I hope they reply soon I feel so on edge at the minute but think it's a just nerves Incase he suspects anything

hellsbellsmelons Tue 16-Aug-16 09:46:43

Do neither of you work?

Keep going and stay strong.
Don't rock the boat until you have an exit plan.

StrongLady87 Tue 16-Aug-16 15:39:51

No he refuses to work and won't allow me to go to work as I do absolutely everything in the house, he is so lazy.
Women's aid has replied giving me numbers and other sites I can use. Once kids go back to school I will start making further plans.

hellsbellsmelons Tue 16-Aug-16 15:46:48

Wow what a gem his is!!???
Roll on the schools going back so you can get out of there.
Do you have no family or friends who could come and get you for now?
I assume he has isolated you from them but would any of them be willing to come and 'rescue' you?

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