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This relationship is a little crowded

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Onwardsandupwards2 Thu 11-Aug-16 01:49:25

A little about me my partner and I adopted a beautiful boy 2and a half years ago he's nearly three well things have been very difficult these last two years with partner losing his mum grandma and grandad things have been so strained between us then things changed he started coming home late from work barely present in home texts all the time from his female co worker etc well last week after hearing them on the phone was listening at door him saying sexual comments the worst was confirmed and two days later after giving him an ultimatum he admitted he'd been having an affair I suspected some inappropriate behaviour but not this must have been walking around with my eyes closed never mind We have been together 15 years and this other woman has a partner and two young kids I'm floored truly I am the thing I can't get into my head is he shows no remorse, no comprehension of the hurt he caused no sorry nothing I'm more sorry for the three children involved I just don't understand it our relationship was hard and I know neither of us tried hard enough to save it why not just seperate and then find love now I don't know what's a lie and what's the truth has our 15years all been a lie anyhow the plan is for myself and our son to find a new home never liked it here nearer my family and pretty certain his new love to move in as in a conversation he said he will get bunk beds for our sons room we only have one child I just can't believe it all really i feel like I'm walking around in quicksand at the moment x this is just a whinge really to see if anyone had any pearls of wisdom or experience or coping mechanisms to help with the grief x

choccyspread Thu 11-Aug-16 01:51:36

I'm really sorry you're having a rough time OP. flowers

However it would really help (and you will get more responses) if you could repost your post with punctuation. It's so difficult to read at the moment.

Just5minswithDacre Thu 11-Aug-16 02:07:45

the thing I can't get into my head is he shows no remorse, no comprehension of the hurt he caused no sorry nothing

It's not that he doesn't understand; he just doesn't care.

I'm sorry. It's horrible when you hit that point.

Get yourself and your DS safely out of it flowers

SandyY2K Thu 11-Aug-16 08:14:18

He shows no remorse because he has no love or respect for you.

Look forward to better days with him in the rear view mirror.

228agreenend Thu 11-Aug-16 08:19:53

I can never understand how someone can move from one family straight to another without any apparent emotion. Feel sorry for all the kids caught up,in this mess.

Start focussing on you and your dc and make a future for yourself.

timelytess Thu 11-Aug-16 08:20:10

Keep breathing. That's all. I know exactly how it feels. Sort out the practical things for you and your son. Where are you going to live and how is it going to be paid for? Don't think about the other woman, what she's like, why he did it, whether she'll move in - none of those things matter. Get checked for STIs. Go forward now. He's part of your past.

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