Dear all,
I'm in need of some advice. I would usually turn to my mum for this but she is a bit under the weather and I don't want to burden her with my drama!
My husband and I have been married for nearly 2 years and we're dating for 3 before that. We have a DS2 & I have DSS5 & DSS15. We both work full time and I earn decent money though he earns more.
My problem is that he professes undying love for me but is quite a selfish person. There is a real inequality in housework, shopping, cooking, childcare & DIY - all fall to me. He does his days work and thinks that's it. Now he has taken up fishing with my encouragement and goes out every Sunday before we wake up and gets home around 6. He said he put his life on hold through his 20s for DSS15 and wants/needs some time to himself & his hobby. This leaves me caring for DSS5 until his mum picks him up on a Sunday morning (not really an issue but it's just expected of me) and alone with DS2 all day. We go out to the park and out with my family but I see other dads and my brother out with their kids and get envious that my husband doesn't do that. DSS15 is going to move in with us full time after summer hols adding more to my load.
Now husband announces that he would like to go on a weeks fishing hol to Ireland, he's wanted to do since he was a kid and his dad went.
We have had some counselling shortly after we were married, due to some trust issues he has from a previous relationship but he gave up because he felt like I was slagging him off for an hour (he hardly participated at all).
I want him to value me & my time and shock horror even want to spend time with me & our son!! But I don't know how to do it. Have I simply married the wrong man for that?? Or can I do something to change his perspective?
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dopeydee · 09/08/2016 13:08
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