NC as this is could out me.
Split from abusive exH. Dec Abs should be through in next 2 weeks.
I have a lovely new DP.
Abusive and controlling ex still tries to control me...However I've had enough counselling to see through him now and I'm not letting him get to me.
The latest stunt is to start rumours that my DP is cheating on me with a colleague.
I don't believe a word of it.
Anyway, the colleague in question has approached my DP today and said she's heard the rumour, it is laughable, but she is quite concerned as ExH is seeing her SIL.
She has asked my DP what exh is like as this rumour is just one of a long line of things which has given her cause to question whether he is actually who he comes across as.
I've told DP if she'd like to speak to me I will happily answer any questions as I don't want this turning into a game of 'he-said-she-said'.
So my question is, how honest should I be with her?
Do I tell her I left him because of DV and leave it there?
Do I go I to detail about he manipulated, abused and controlled me for years?
Do I send her photographic evidence of my injuries, the link to his court case in the local media, the videos I took of him abusing me that I used as evidence for my divorce?
I don't want to seem like I'm doing this to spite him. That's not the reason at all. I just think her poor SIL should have all the facts before she allows this man into her life.
As is typical with abusers he comes across as the one that's been badly done to as he's the innocent party and manages to manipulate everyone to be on his side.
Any advice welcome. Sorry for the long post.
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Shoulditellher333 · 09/08/2016 12:46
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