I was married with kids, husband was 'great' things started to slide as they do after 15 yrs H didn't pay any attention I picked up all the slack he buried his head in the sand, my head was turned and I left him as I thought that was the right thing to do for all of us.
Gave him chances but he didn't seem bothered so I carried on with OM - that was last year. I explicitly asked him to come on holiday with me last year but he refused due to work so I took that as a sign he didn't want to save his marriage. I also spent NYE with him and friends and again he didn't seem bothered?! H and I got on OK but he constantly hounded me via text about what had happened and I was trying to buy a house so I divorced him (this year) still no real objection just about who pays.
So I try to give it a go with OM since NYE - I buy a house and we were due to move in together but things aren't right with him so last week I ended it.
H had just started seeing some 25 yr old at work and although he said he loved me on the phone last week he has completely cut me off...I'm devastated.
I've begged for him to come on holiday with me and the kids again but he's refused, I know you are all going to say it was my fault because that's exactly what H says but I just don't understand why he's been hounding me for so long, tells me he loves me and slams the door shut in my face, I'm heartbroken I honestly thought we would find a way of being together.
He says he wants to be friends and I've invited I'm round for his tea tomorrow night?!! WTF
I keep messaging him and hounding him like he did me, Im in such a state atm, and I know its all I deserve..
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messeduptotally · 09/08/2016 09:47
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