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Were you kicked off Relate - what happened next?

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overthehillandroundthemountain Mon 08-Aug-16 22:51:08

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Kicked off? Told there was no way forward? Do they do that? Wow.

I never used relate, but I did use an excellent local counsellor. I guess if YOU think genre a way forward then it's worth looking for an alternative m.

AtTheEndofTheRoad Mon 08-Aug-16 23:12:24

Not much help as went to Relate- on my own as DH wouldn't come. Didn't find it helpful. I think it depends on your situation and also if you get the right counsellor.

AtTheEndofTheRoad Mon 08-Aug-16 23:14:00

We are splitting up, but if you don't want to do that I wouldn't say that's the only way based purely on what someone at Relate says.

whirlygirly Mon 08-Aug-16 23:18:47

Well now I think back, we nearly were kicked off, as the counsellor told me Xh was giving off very odd passive aggressive vibes apparently.(!) I went to the final session on my own and by then it had started to come out that he had been going through the motions and there was ow in the wings. We separated about a month later.

overthehillandroundthemountain Wed 10-Aug-16 07:27:12

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Justaboy Wed 10-Aug-16 10:03:43

Went to relate, tried but the marriage was over so the counsellor said.

Said she'd seen it all before and the atmosphere between us was too far gone to change anything for the better.

She concluded that there was nothing wrong as such with either of us or our attitudes but that we'd just grown too far apart.

And now we are divorced I'm a bit lighter in the pocket but i hear that shes happier in her homeland and it sure is less miserable around here;!

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