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Getit · 07/08/2016 11:14

Bf and I had quite passionate sex last night and towards the end when he was on top I was aware that he was pressing down quite hard on me. Afterwards I had palpitations and felt like it was harder to breathe. This morning my chest and ribcage feel painful, bruised and tight.
Bf is a big bloke bit overweight but very muscly .
I am tall ( maybe not thought of as fragile) but very small framed.
My question is what the heck can I say if it happens again without causing offense. ?

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loveyoutothemoon · 07/08/2016 11:22

"I'm in pain and bruised from last night".

Quite simple really.

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loveyoutothemoon · 07/08/2016 11:23

Prevent it from happening again.

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hownottofuckup · 07/08/2016 11:24

Don't wait for it to happen again, tell him this morning.

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Morasssassafras · 07/08/2016 11:27

Why are you worried about offending him when you are the one who is in pain and bruised?

And "stop you are hurting me" would do the job.

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ButteredToastAndStrawberryJam · 07/08/2016 11:30

I agree about telling him, you don't want that happening again. In mid sesh if needed. Sounds like he needs to build up some arm/elbow strength and be more considerate.

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Getit · 07/08/2016 11:34

He's not lacking in strength, it was because we were trying to be quiet incase dc woke , so I guess that's why but it was unintentional.
I don't know how to word it other than" you're fecking crushing me"

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ImperialBlether · 07/08/2016 13:39

Was he aware afterwards that you were having palpitations?

You need to talk to him and tell him exactly what you felt. Surely he wouldn't do it again, then?

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Tarttlet · 07/08/2016 14:01

I think it might be a good idea to bring it up now so the topic is addressed in a non-sexual context, rather than waiting until it happens again. That way you don't have to worry about ruining the moment (although if you're in pain at any point during sex I do think that rather trumps his enjoyment of it!)

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MatildaTheCat · 07/08/2016 14:07

A long time ago as a nurse I looked after a woman whose new husband had fractured her pelvis quite badly whilst having honeymoon sex. He was a big rugby player and was beyond mortified.

So just tell ffs. Sounds unintentional, if I've misread that then obviously LTB.