don't know how to handle this situation
my OH wants to go on skiing holiday every year with his in laws for last 10 years+ we always have and it drives me nuts and now he tries to get us to go on summer holiday with them last year I refused and booked a holiday just 4 of us. he kept saying he wasn't going to come on it as he was cross I wouldn't go away with his bloody family again but obviously we went and he loved it so much he wanted to stay longer
. we have twin daughters of 5 and they hardly ever get one on one time with daddy all year round. if he is ever with them he takes them to a pub, or goes to his family or somehow dilutes the time he has so he can fob them off onto someone else. they said to me they want to go on holiday with daddy so he cant be at work and cant be with his friends so he has to spend time with us (heartbreaking)
now ive just found out despite mentioning to me few weeks ago about going on summer hols with them and me telling him that I don't want to he has been arranging flights and a hotel with them and they are about to book (just found out by accident all written on piece of paper in his car!)
I don't want to as:
- (I don't get on with one of my brother in laws or his wife but do get on with other BIL and SIL (long story) so feel very uncomfortable with them like pulling knives out of my back
- my daughters just want to spend quality time with daddy
- if we go away with them my husband will spend the whole time trying to opt out of parenting and will keep wanting to sit at a bar with both brother in laws drinking beer so the girls and I may as well not bother going
Ive told him I refuse to go with his family just like last year as girls want to be alone with him and I don't want to be away with backstabbers and he goes mad and says we wont go away them so weve just had row
my sister in law (the one I do like) is coming over tomorrow and I know he is going to try and corner me about the holiday in front of her in the hope that he will embarrass me into going as its hard to say I don't want to in front of her? I feel like im being rude as im clearly trying to get out of all holidays with them last 2 years now but don't want to go on holiday with them would rather be with friends who have children the same age people I get on well with or just 4 of us as a family on summer hols
how would you handle it?
thanks!