Help me not spiral into a weekend nark

[lolaflores]

just noticed recently a lot of criticism from DH. Its low level during the week but seems to ramp up at weekend. I find it difficult to point it out to him. he denies it all. The weekends then turn into narksville from me. I hate the weekend. lIts friday and my narkometer is going up. How do I bounce the crits off my back without aggression. How do I approach it without a fight eripting and me crying and feeling shut down.
I know the behaviour isn't all down to me its just like talking to a fucking wall. We sit around cos everyone is fagged out from their busy weeks. I get cabin fever. There is stropping about....the weekends just feel shit really

[HeddaGarbled]

You need to change how you react to the criticisms. Maybe do some reading about Transactional Analysis and communication skills. Lots of stuff on the Internet.

I know that this is a lot easier said than done but try to stay calm rather than immediately leap into anger and defensiveness.

So, first criticism of the day: "so you think I .......? What would you prefer me to do? I see, I will think about whether I am willing to do that."

Second criticism: " so you think I .... as well as (first thing you were criticised for)?"

Third criticism: "Let me get this straight. You think I do ..... wrong and .......wrong and also ......wrong?" Etc etc, all day if need be.

Or just LTB?