I'd REALLY appreciate other people's experiences on this issue, because sometimes I feel on my own with it. All my friends seem to have these perfect parents who are cruising around the world on their retirement. My poor mum - she's had it really, really tough. She was a single parent, broke, no friends or family, no hobbies or interests that made her happy and some (very understandable) trust issues after an altogether hard life. My life wasn't easy either - I have battled through some serious challenges, but I try to maintain a breezy outlook, do my best to be sociable and positive and to enjoy my life. She would say its easy for me because I have a partner and a baby and a wide circle of friends but I wouldn't have those things if I was negative and distrustful to start off with. So my issue is - I just don't know how to help her. She always has something or someone to moan about, some shop assistant who wasn't helpful, some dinner she didn't enjoy, some sad story about a car crash or someone who died. There are always a string of ailments, none of which I know what to say about other than "see a doctor". The ONLY thing that makes her happy is her grandchild, and I'm delighted about that, but I live a few hours away. I try to do this once a month but its tough, and I'm busy. She also comes to visit but can be negative and unduly critical about my partner which makes me uncomfortable. She only ever sees the bad in everything...and it drains me. She's painfully lonely but I can't help her, sometimes I can't even listen to her because I feel burnt out already. Anyone have a close friend/family member like this?
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BBLucy1891 · 04/08/2016 11:57
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