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boyfriend never gives compliments?

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cammyli Wed 03-Aug-16 21:48:49

Does anyone else's partner never compliment them? He says he loves me . But never says "you look gorgeous" or "wow you beautiful" I know it's not a huge deal but sometimes it's just nice to hear I suppose!

dubdurbs Wed 03-Aug-16 22:30:15

Mine will only comment when I ask him if something looks good on me. I don't think he's ever spontaneously given a compliment in all the years we are together. However, in comparison to my ex, who was very complimentary towards me, he is a far better man. He's affectionate and loving, and can be very thoughtful in unexpected ways, and he hasn't shagged rings around hihimselas my ex did.

WillIEverBeASizeTen Thu 04-Aug-16 00:05:51

I have one of those..never get complimented. We've spoken about it and he says he finds it hard to give them. I don't, they come easy to me, but obviously only with sincerity.

He is a good man, but I think it important to have recognition in a relationship.

Have you spoken to him about it? If not why don't you, he may not even realise.

Norwolf Thu 04-Aug-16 00:13:11

Every man should unhesitatingly compliment their woman. Why else would they choose to be with them if they did not appreciate them??!

sykadelic Thu 04-Aug-16 02:36:04

My husband doesn't compliment me out of the blue, no. It's not the type of person he is and I honestly don't need the validation of the words.. not because I think I'm fabulous but because I know he loves me, I know he appreciates me, I know he thinks all those wonderful things because otherwise he wouldn't be with me.

It's cliche but it seriously is about "the little things". When he's out at the store getting me my preferred drink just because. Sending me texts during the day telling me he loves me. Doing things to make me happy, even if it's not something he'd normally choose. Birthdays, Christmas etc are always special events, even though it's not the way he was raised but because he knows it's the way I was and it means a lot to me.

In short, he always puts me and my needs above his own because my happiness means a lot to him. Of course I feel the same and we have a pretty awesome relationship.

As compliments are important to you, do you compliment him? What does he say?

adora1 Thu 04-Aug-16 11:21:41

Yes, especially if I have my hair done, new outfit, 14 years later.....and I expect it for the foreseeable too!

Pearlman Thu 04-Aug-16 16:22:15

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redexpat Thu 04-Aug-16 23:42:21

He used to. He doesn't anymore, doesnt even comment when I've had a hair cut sad. DS is 4 and when I wore a dress the other day told me I was a princess and it made my night! It was just really nice to be noticed for a change.

cammyli Sun 07-Aug-16 00:34:55

Redepat it's so shit isn't it! Aww did he, well that's lovely so he must notice! I think it just be one of those things when you've been together for so long they jus stop happening/doing it

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