Hi,
I was in a very controlling ea relationship, left when dd was a baby . Several years limited contact and family court and counselling for PTSD later, I have settled to a manageable way of dealing with him. He's Still angry and controlling, still setting traps and acting the victim. But because I don't have him near me and the contact order is clear I don't do handovers etc I can manage.
Here comes the but..
He is sending awful texts accusing me of being negative about him to dd ( I'm not, I am upbeat and positive when she has contact, despite my fears he will abuse her like he did me- I literally couldn't think for myself).
He wants to go to weekly contact( it's fortnightly) and for me to do drop off, and to pick her up from nursery( it is literally doors down from my new home that he is not meant to know of). It is all about getting back in control of me.
In the relationship ....trigger....
When dd was newborn he raped me brutally as she screamed . I had a c section and had to hold on to my stitches to stop them breaking.
I haven't reported this, and some of it is blocked out.
I thought I could handle it as I don't have to see him. But if he takes me to court again I might have to see him daily( he stalked me and kept being places I was, and he has started again getting dd to tell him where we to go to the park, which bus route etc and taking her driving around).
I cannot live like that.
Hope this makes sense. I just want to stop him getting close to me and my daily life. He is a classic narc, can't see 'any reason why I won't see him'.
Would reporting cause more trouble than it's worth. After so long could I get a non mol.
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*pos trigger* should I report this?
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ooharmehearties · 03/08/2016 08:37
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