Very long story and I did get so much support from MN back then, have forgotten my login details from then so started again.
In a nutshell Last year I caught my husband messaging another woman he met at a wedding after seriously letting me down by going alone...
I am still struggling with what I saw (photos from her and his response) and read between them, not to mention him spending the evening choosing having fun with her over his family when we needed him a lot that night.
I have had lots of occasions when I thought we were over, he was remorseful, he has completely changed is fully dedicated to me and the kids and would literally do anything for us.
I still keep my guard and he knows I haven't forgiven him.
Anyway the point of my thread is this..it's our anniversary in Saturday and I have no inclination to 'celebrate' it or even acknowledge it in anyway..its dragged all those horrible feelings back to when I found out and where I told him he had clearly not taken our vows seriously and that our marriage is now just a legal document.(maybe I over reacted but I was so hurt)
I think he thinks this year it will be a really special one because we are working through things and trying so hard to start a new chapter.
I don't even want to buy him a card at the moment.
Am I being harsh?? Or OTT?Or do I have the right to say this year at least I don't want to do anything??
I would appreciate hearing how others dealt with their anniversaries after a betrayal.
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Amythest001 · 02/08/2016 16:23
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