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Relationships

DH overruling me and starting rows

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BathshebaDarkstone · 02/08/2016 15:39

DS was a little sod all day yesterday, DH offered him a sprout while he was cooking supper, I told DS he had to promise to be good first, DH gave it to him anyway, I took it off him and asked him to promise to be good, which he did, DH went nuts and started insulting me and my family. DS's behaviour got worse, DD was screaming it was too loud. DH doesn't seem to care how his behaviour affects the DC.

WWYD?

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Isetan · 02/08/2016 15:58

If there isn't more to this story then this, then both of you need to grow the fuck up.

TeaPleaseLouise · 02/08/2016 16:08

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1weekdown5togo · 02/08/2016 16:16

Eh? That's a weird incentive for a child. You can have food but only if you're 'good.' Poor kid.

Crinkle77 · 02/08/2016 16:21

I agree with Tea. You overruled your husband in the first place. It was only a sprout for gods sake.

Desmondo2016 · 02/08/2016 16:24

It's hard to say as I'd give my kids sprouts to punish them for being sods.besides, if your DH offered him a sprout didn't you overrule him first by saying he couldnt have one?

adora1 · 02/08/2016 16:27

What kid eats sprouts, a treat, really.

I guess this is just one example of how your DH puts you down, must be shit for your child in the middle of you two arguing over that.

Missgraeme · 02/08/2016 16:27

U should have praised him for wanting a sprout!! And u shouldnt interfere with a father /son sprout moment anyway.

dementedpixie · 02/08/2016 16:30

Why make him make that promise anyway, it's bound to get broken at some point making it meaningless. Embrace the sprout love too!

Muddlingthroughtoo · 02/08/2016 16:31

Is there more to the story? Can't see why he can't have a sprout, I think you were being quite unreasonable and was is really worth an argument? One day you will laugh over sproutgate and wonder what on earth the problem was! X

LewisAndClark · 02/08/2016 16:33

Is this some weird joke that I'm not getting?

RubbishMantra · 02/08/2016 16:35

I hope DH made sure the (Brussels?) sprout was thoroughly clean and free of grit, before he offered it to DS.

And a child who likes Brussels Sprouts as a treat? I'd say you're quite lucky.

happypoobum · 02/08/2016 16:51

When you say "sprout" you mean "Twix" right?

Finola1step · 02/08/2016 16:54

Sprout?

MaddyHatter · 02/08/2016 17:06

it was an interaction between your H and DS, it wasn't your place to interfere or to put conditions on the offer of the food your DH made to his son.

You caused that, your DH was totally in the right.

happythankyoumoreplease · 02/08/2016 21:03

Her DH was in the right to start with, but insulting her family and 'going nuts' over it in front of their son is a major overreaction.

newname99 · 02/08/2016 21:09

You overruled your dh.I think you need to reflect on how are acting.When everyone is cooler have a discussion about discipline.

Your dh should not have been insulting.

newworldnow · 02/08/2016 21:12

You make children promise to be good? and it involves food? Setting yourself and ds up for eating disorders. Control freakery.

Fairylea · 02/08/2016 21:17

Surely a child wanting to eat a sprout (!) is a good thing? In my house it would be a cause for celebration! (Ds has asd and a very restrictive diet). I think the whole thing sounds like a huge over reaction!

elephantoverthehill · 02/08/2016 21:22

A sprout in August? Even TOGs don't start cooking them until October ready for Christmas dinner. I think I feel an attack of the vapours coming on.

NerrSnerr · 02/08/2016 21:25

He had to promise to be good to have a sprout? You both sound really childish tbh.

NeedAnotherGlass · 02/08/2016 21:42

There's a lot more going on here than sprouts!

DeathStare · 03/08/2016 05:16

This is an odd reverse right?

If not - even from your own version of events - you clearly undermined your DH first; and then again a second time.

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RickJames · 03/08/2016 06:37

A sprout? As in an actual Brussel sprout? And your son had to promise to be 'good' to be permitted to eat said sprout?

Nevertheless, you should not be undermining your husband in front of the children especially by taking foods away to extract abstract promises from pre-schoolers.

BathshebaDarkstone · 03/08/2016 11:27

See, I think he overruled me, as when he offered DS the sprout I said, "will you promise to be good," but he gave it to him when he was still kicking, hitting, biting etc. So it teaches him, if I'm violent I get what I want.

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ExtraHotLatteToGo · 03/08/2016 11:31

If you weren't such a longtime poster I'd think you were a GF.

What the hell is going on?

Was he kicking off because he wanted a sprout or just generally being a little sod?

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