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DH overruling me and starting rows

(45 Posts)
BathshebaDarkstone Tue 02-Aug-16 15:39:01

DS was a little sod all day yesterday, DH offered him a sprout while he was cooking supper, I told DS he had to promise to be good first, DH gave it to him anyway, I took it off him and asked him to promise to be good, which he did, DH went nuts and started insulting me and my family. DS's behaviour got worse, DD was screaming it was too loud. DH doesn't seem to care how his behaviour affects the DC.


Isetan Tue 02-Aug-16 15:58:12

If there isn't more to this story then this, then both of you need to grow the fuck up.

TeaPleaseLouise Tue 02-Aug-16 16:08:55

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

1weekdown5togo Tue 02-Aug-16 16:16:52

Eh? That's a weird incentive for a child. You can have food but only if you're 'good.' Poor kid.

Crinkle77 Tue 02-Aug-16 16:21:37

I agree with Tea. You overruled your husband in the first place. It was only a sprout for gods sake.

Desmondo2016 Tue 02-Aug-16 16:24:15

It's hard to say as I'd give my kids sprouts to punish them for being sods.besides, if your DH offered him a sprout didn't you overrule him first by saying he couldnt have one?

adora1 Tue 02-Aug-16 16:27:14

What kid eats sprouts, a treat, really.

I guess this is just one example of how your DH puts you down, must be shit for your child in the middle of you two arguing over that.

Missgraeme Tue 02-Aug-16 16:27:49

U should have praised him for wanting a sprout!! And u shouldnt interfere with a father /son sprout moment anyway.

dementedpixie Tue 02-Aug-16 16:30:33

Why make him make that promise anyway, it's bound to get broken at some point making it meaningless. Embrace the sprout love too!

Muddlingthroughtoo Tue 02-Aug-16 16:31:35

Is there more to the story? Can't see why he can't have a sprout, I think you were being quite unreasonable and was is really worth an argument? One day you will laugh over sproutgate and wonder what on earth the problem was! X

LewisAndClark Tue 02-Aug-16 16:33:06

Is this some weird joke that I'm not getting?

RubbishMantra Tue 02-Aug-16 16:35:58

I hope DH made sure the (Brussels?) sprout was thoroughly clean and free of grit, before he offered it to DS.

And a child who likes Brussels Sprouts as a treat? I'd say you're quite lucky. grin

happypoobum Tue 02-Aug-16 16:51:25

When you say "sprout" you mean "Twix" right?

Finola1step Tue 02-Aug-16 16:54:14


MaddyHatter Tue 02-Aug-16 17:06:22

it was an interaction between your H and DS, it wasn't your place to interfere or to put conditions on the offer of the food your DH made to his son.

You caused that, your DH was totally in the right.

happythankyoumoreplease Tue 02-Aug-16 21:03:10

Her DH was in the right to start with, but insulting her family and 'going nuts' over it in front of their son is a major overreaction.

newname99 Tue 02-Aug-16 21:09:05

You overruled your dh.I think you need to reflect on how are acting.When everyone is cooler have a discussion about discipline.

Your dh should not have been insulting.

newworldnow Tue 02-Aug-16 21:12:51

You make children promise to be good? and it involves food? Setting yourself and ds up for eating disorders. Control freakery.

Fairylea Tue 02-Aug-16 21:17:23

Surely a child wanting to eat a sprout (!) is a good thing? In my house it would be a cause for celebration! (Ds has asd and a very restrictive diet). I think the whole thing sounds like a huge over reaction!

elephantoverthehill Tue 02-Aug-16 21:22:10

A sprout in August? Even TOGs don't start cooking them until October ready for Christmas dinner. I think I feel an attack of the vapours coming on.

NerrSnerr Tue 02-Aug-16 21:25:55

He had to promise to be good to have a sprout? You both sound really childish tbh.

NeedAnotherGlass Tue 02-Aug-16 21:42:14

There's a lot more going on here than sprouts!

DeathStare Wed 03-Aug-16 05:16:36

This is an odd reverse right?

If not - even from your own version of events - you clearly undermined your DH first; and then again a second time.

RickJames Wed 03-Aug-16 06:37:00

A sprout? As in an actual Brussel sprout? And your son had to promise to be 'good' to be permitted to eat said sprout?

<wonders if this is a real situation or an excerpt from Dickens>

Nevertheless, you should not be undermining your husband in front of the children especially by taking foods away to extract abstract promises from pre-schoolers.

BathshebaDarkstone Wed 03-Aug-16 11:27:06

See, I think he overruled me, as when he offered DS the sprout I said, "will you promise to be good," but he gave it to him when he was still kicking, hitting, biting etc. So it teaches him, if I'm violent I get what I want.

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