I need some advice please.
My best friend of 8 1/2 years has basically given up on our friendship.
It's been deteriorating since she started a relationship 3 1/2 years ago, it was the stereo typical abandon her friends, only hang out with his, take on all his hobbies, abandon her own etc etc. They fought a lot and she struggled to bond with his gang in the beginning but I (stupidly?) encouraged her to keep trying with them as I knew how much she liked this guy... I just didn't think she'd go so far as to never come back to our friendship group.
Anyway they broke up 6 months ago and I have been as supportive as I can, her life has 'fallen apart' (not my words) in other ways too, homeless and living with parents now, some other problems too. I've offered her my place to stay a while, msg regularly to check in on her etc.
I honestly can't summarise 3 years of hurt in this one post without getting to a point where people will stop reading but I am trying to summarise being heartbroken. I worry about it everyday. We were incredibly close and she was my bridesmaid and I think our relationship peaked then. She disappeared for the first year of my sons life (born 2014) and I have never felt so abandoned as I did then.
What should I do now that she seems completely unable to maintain a relationship with me. She doesn't want to spend time together, her replies are delayed and flat. I know she's going through a lot but I also see/hear her socialising a lot with others. Should I be more patient still? How long do you give a relationship before you walk away?
For the last 3 years I have felt like when you're dating someone but they don't have the balls to tell you they're not interested anymore and hope you just leave them alone.
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Should I give up on my best friend
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littlemisseatsherfeelings · 01/08/2016 21:12
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