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Not bloody fair!

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WoodenTrees · 01/08/2016 01:54

He is downstairs playing loud music. It's nearly two in the morning, I'm in tears, I need to sleep. So pissed off. I was asleep, a new torture, obviously.

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finnmcool · 01/08/2016 01:57

What's going on that you can't ask him to turn it down?
A new torture sounds like you're in an abusive relationship.
Do you want to leave?

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minatiae · 01/08/2016 02:09

ex used to do this on purpose to stop me from sleeping. if that is what this is I would advise leaving the relationship.

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WoodenTrees · 01/08/2016 07:33

Thank you. I just wanted it down somewhere. It's an escalation, I did go downstairs and ask for it to be turned down, but apparently it was dd's fault because she wanted to listen to music Hmm. She wasn't in the room. Then it was my fault because I've always said I don't mind. I don't, at 2 in the afternoon, but 2 in the morning, surely logic kicks in? Then I got shouted at and asked whether all the times I said I hadn't minded were a lie. I walked away. It was however turned off. If I'm lucky he'll behave as though nothing has happened this morning, although he's already stomped past me twice without speaking. We'll see.

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SpringTown46 · 01/08/2016 07:47

Why are you with a person who thinks so little of you?

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WoodenTrees · 01/08/2016 10:16

Aaarghh! Just went to clean the kitchen and had forgotten that I'd cooked last night. Discussed it with him, yep, what he wanted. By the time it was ready though he'd had his bad mood and refused to eat it. He made himself something later. What a waste.
I'm posting here because I want it safely somewhere.

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Montane50 · 01/08/2016 23:41

Your posts seem irrational and sporadic, are you ok?

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AnyFucker · 02/08/2016 00:08

Your life doesn't sound at all pleasant or secure

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WoodenTrees · 02/08/2016 16:58

Montane I can only post when he's upstairs asleep. Sorry if they seem a touch irrational, I try and get things down where I can, when I can. I have another thread running: here
AnyFucker Ducks are being aligned.

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MiddleClassProblem · 02/08/2016 17:05

I don't understand why you didn't post this on there?

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MiddleClassProblem · 02/08/2016 17:06

I think that thread you have a support team so it's a good avenue to vent to people who have read more of the story

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WoodenTrees · 02/08/2016 17:56

MiddleClass, neither do I. I suspect initially because it was two in the morning and I'd been woken somewhat abruptly by loud music. Just wasn't thinking straight. I shall go back there, you're right, there is support there.

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