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This is so wrong, am I right to feel like this

(96 Posts)
pnutter Sun 31-Jul-16 19:02:42

I have a close male friend, I am female.
We are just friends, but have had sex in the past.
We see each other socially perhaps once a week. Absolutely no intention of anything but just friends in future. And that goes for both of us.
I saw today he has been sending photos of me to a group of male friends. I mean, I caught him doing it today. It seems he is always doing it. Today it was down my top, I presume he may have sent more explicit ones too sad
I told him our friendship is over. He thought I was being silly and that I should be flattered. It is just a laugh?

pnutter Sun 31-Jul-16 19:04:18

The group of men were commenting sad

blue2014 Sun 31-Jul-16 19:05:29

You are absolutely right, that's a horrible thing for him to do. Friends don't do that

pnutter Sun 31-Jul-16 19:07:41

I could see tons of pics in his gallery too ..focused on me bending over or of my cleavage ..he's a massive sleaze right ?

Coconutty Sun 31-Jul-16 19:10:16

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

BastardGoDarkly Sun 31-Jul-16 19:10:54

Jesus! So I presume these pictures were taken without your knowledge?

That's illegal isn't it?

pnutter Sun 31-Jul-16 19:13:03

Is it illegal? Good I may get him arrested for it. I feel sick and betrayed. And anxious.
I've been very ill and he does this to me.

Canyouforgiveher Sun 31-Jul-16 19:13:37

He is disgusting and quite possibly committing a crime.

FreeFromHarm Sun 31-Jul-16 19:15:30

it is illegal just over the last few months, call the police..has he posted them online ?

FreeFromHarm Sun 31-Jul-16 19:16:43

its a new law, something to do with revenge porn so I read , he has probably deleted them now, but it is worth calling it in

ImperialBlether Sun 31-Jul-16 19:17:19

He's breaking the law. Don't say anything more about it to him and contact the police on 101. He's disgusting and he's not a friend of yours.

Luna2016 Sun 31-Jul-16 19:18:28

Sharing explicit photos with out a persons knowledge is against the law he can be taken to court and put in prison. Not to mention the fact he took the photos without your premision. Similar thing happen to a friend of mine, she reported it to the police and is currently in court proceedings about it.

You have every right to take further action. Hope your okay.

monkeywithacowface Sun 31-Jul-16 19:18:44

What a scumbag, I would be very tempted to phone the police and wipe the smile of his face

pnutter Sun 31-Jul-16 19:20:30

I'm going to do that thank you. I honestly hate to think what he's done with them. And what other pics he has. As far as I can see he was sharing with a group of men (that I dont know, although professionally not far off - some work in a similar sector) . There were sexual comments about me. He keeps calling but I'm not answering phone.

McBassyPants Sun 31-Jul-16 19:23:13

Definitely ring the police hun. He's not just a sleaze, he's a disgusting example of a human being. And a criminal. Do not let him get away with this x

FruitCider Sun 31-Jul-16 19:24:33

"down blousing" or voyeurism is definitely illegal in the UK and has been for many years. Report this scum bag to the police immediately!

CalleighDoodle Sun 31-Jul-16 19:26:07

What a diagusting individual he is.

FreeFromHarm Sun 31-Jul-16 19:26:17

block him , do not reply

Cinnamon2013 Sun 31-Jul-16 19:26:44

It sounds like you already know the answer. Think about why there is even the tiniest niggling doubt (why you had to ask here).

Once you work that out, and get your self-esteem 1000% sorted, you'll have no problems cutting him off and never looking back.

LindyHemming Sun 31-Jul-16 19:30:35

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

MsJudgemental Sun 31-Jul-16 19:41:32

As others have said, report and block.

Luna2016 Sun 31-Jul-16 19:43:49

If you are going to report it to the police the sooner the better then he can't delet the images and comments. I know you'd like them gone but if you report it they can get a warrant to search through his phone.
If they do find the images and comments it'll be better for the long run as its solid proof.

ImperialBlether Sun 31-Jul-16 19:48:23

I wouldn't do anything to warn him that you're going to report it, as he might delete the images. I'd just text something to put him off, eg "Busy at the moment, speak later" then call 101. Do it now, OP - god knows what he's doing with those pictures.

AutumnRose1988 Mon 01-Aug-16 09:57:49

Bloody hell-I read this and nearly spat my tea out! What the hell! He hasn't even done this out of revenge, he has done this as a loyal friend who isn't even angry at you?!?! (Obv. Revenge porn is never ever excusable!)
I am not always the same as other posters and jump at saying "abuse" or "LTB" but this is a black and white situation completely....ring the police.

pnutter Mon 01-Aug-16 10:02:53

Haven't slept...just about to ring the police..I have been thinking about it all night and trying to find out what the offence would be etc..I will see now what the police have to say
He sent me a message late last night calling me a c×nt because I was ignoring him. Hideously, I remembered him joking around when I was in the loo in my house a while ago and he put his phone through the window..I told him to sod off etc but I guess this has been shared too ..and God knows what else
Anyway, nor delaying anymore going to report him and these other men.

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