Regular male poster - have name-changed for this post...
I regard my wife and I as being pretty good with money - we have a joint account and we split everything (mortgage, childcare etc) as a equitabe share of each others income - I earn a bit more so I pay a bit more.
Our son is growing out of his car seat and we knew we were going to need a new one. Money is a little tight until our daughter goes to school in September, so we started putting cash into a small box in our dresser as a savings pot so that by the time the replacement was really needed we would have enough. The seed was money relatives had given us for our wedding anniversary, and it has been supplemented by sales of various baby carriers and stuff we no longer need. We were only about 30 pounds short.
I sold a video game today and went to put the money in the box. When I opened it I found there was over 200 pounds missing.When I asked my wife what was going on, she said she had used it for petrol the last few months, but would replenish it by selling some baby wraps we didn't need any more.
I am really angry that she has done this for two reasons. Firstly, the moey was meant for an essential for our children. That now has to come from somewhere else (what happens if we are unable to sell the baby carriers?). I will find the money, because he has to have a new seat, but it now means cutting back on areas I didn't expect to.
Secondly, I am really dissapointed that my wife didn't feel she could come to me and tell me that she was running short. I would have been able to cover her petrol out of my own personal funds, so that we didn't need to raid the savings pot. We are meant to be a team, and now I wonder how much of that is actually true.
Has anyone else been in this position? Am I massively overreacting?
Grateful for some perspective.
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Trust over money - am I overreacting?
RisingSun16 · 29/07/2016 23:00
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