These are the facts. Please tell me what you think.
Your partner (caring, committed, good company, long term relationship) gets a text from another woman. It says 'I need to see you.'
He tells you that it is woman he met for coffee once, at least 4.5 years ago.
You ask why she wants to see him. He says he doesn't know. He says he has been 'helping her because she is in an abusive relationship'.
You ask to see their messages. He has deleted them. He calls her a nutter and says he doesn't want anything to do with her.
He lies about where they met because the place he names didn't open until over 2 years after they apparently met.
The OW is married with a husband who works abroad for long periods.
You contact the OW and she says there is no relationship. However she says they met for coffee twice and says he had been single for a couple of years, when you know that your relationship started after he was single for one year.
Most importantly she refuses to say how they met or even which year. She says she can't remember and it wasn't important to her. She says she didn't mean to send him that message, it was for someone else, although when it happened that's not the way he acted. No apology offered for upset caused.
He swears he has not seen anyone else and also swears he would never cheat because he knows what it feels like. The relationship is over because he says he knows I don't trust him now. But I'm left feeling like the crazy one because they both know the truth and I don't.
I've posted about this already and had good advice. But I'm struggling. Please give it to me honestly and help me come to terms with what I thought I knew about him and our relationship and this new information.
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